umm hussain
Junior Member
A local newspaper carried the story of a Saudi woman who asked for a divorce from her husband because she had earned a university degree while he had only a middle-school certificate.
What is strange is that she asked for the divorce after 10 years of marriage and after the birth of several children. Does it take us this long to discover a problem? Since when is divorce allowed as a result of cultural and educational inequalities?
The woman would have not earned her university degree without the help and support of her husband. Since she was married for more than 10 years, she may have held no more than a middle-school certificate when she married. The problem is not in her getting her degree but in the way she thinks. Total injustice was done to the husband who supported her, stood beside her until she got her degree.
The case is similar to men who divorce their wives after they achieve a certain social status, despite their wives having been patient and loving when they first married and lived in poverty.
This is a problem that we as a society have to face before it escalates to a level beyond our control. We are all aware that the divorce rate has shot up and reached dangerous proportions — as much between newly weds as between long married couples. Do we need 20 years of marriage to discover there is social inequality between a man and a woman? Is it possible that a woman should seek a divorce because she continued her education? Her husband might be better educated than a man who holds a university degree.
Divorce in Islam is permitted when one cannot live with his or her partner or when the man cannot perform his role as a father or the woman cannot perform her role as a mother. Divorce is also allowed when a woman cannot live with her husband because he beats her. But to ask for a divorce because of an academic qualification is a straightforward injustice.
I think we should have a close look at the divorce files and determine the reasons for them, especially since Saudi society is now deeply infected with the problem. Divorce is permitted in Islam but not for frivolous or transitory reasons. We see people divorcing and giving little thought to how their children will be affected. Divorce is no doubt the only cure for some marital problems but when we get to the point where a divorce happens every 10 minutes, that is a threat to society.
What is strange is that she asked for the divorce after 10 years of marriage and after the birth of several children. Does it take us this long to discover a problem? Since when is divorce allowed as a result of cultural and educational inequalities?
The woman would have not earned her university degree without the help and support of her husband. Since she was married for more than 10 years, she may have held no more than a middle-school certificate when she married. The problem is not in her getting her degree but in the way she thinks. Total injustice was done to the husband who supported her, stood beside her until she got her degree.
The case is similar to men who divorce their wives after they achieve a certain social status, despite their wives having been patient and loving when they first married and lived in poverty.
This is a problem that we as a society have to face before it escalates to a level beyond our control. We are all aware that the divorce rate has shot up and reached dangerous proportions — as much between newly weds as between long married couples. Do we need 20 years of marriage to discover there is social inequality between a man and a woman? Is it possible that a woman should seek a divorce because she continued her education? Her husband might be better educated than a man who holds a university degree.
Divorce in Islam is permitted when one cannot live with his or her partner or when the man cannot perform his role as a father or the woman cannot perform her role as a mother. Divorce is also allowed when a woman cannot live with her husband because he beats her. But to ask for a divorce because of an academic qualification is a straightforward injustice.
I think we should have a close look at the divorce files and determine the reasons for them, especially since Saudi society is now deeply infected with the problem. Divorce is permitted in Islam but not for frivolous or transitory reasons. We see people divorcing and giving little thought to how their children will be affected. Divorce is no doubt the only cure for some marital problems but when we get to the point where a divorce happens every 10 minutes, that is a threat to society.