The attachments pertain to married women with children and homes to run.
Not all women have the luxury to sit at home and play with their babies and rely on hubby's paycheque. Islam is for all women, not just the mothers. The sad truth is that MOST Muslim men do not follow the command of Allah and fail to maintain and protect their sisters and daughters. Some ladies and I were talking bout this just the other day, that as Muslim women born in the west because our parents chose to immigrate, the burden in us is enormous. We have to make sure we are well employed and that there is enough money for housing costs, food, basic expenses, transportation, etc. I would never take the bus to work because usually the buses are packed and I have to rub against all sorts of people -- yuck. So I drive, but while my married sisters have husbands who tke care of car maintenance, get the tires changed, get the oil changed, I do all that myself. And sometimes I'm sitting in the waiting area of the garage in a room full of men.
I do what I do. But it's not easy. According to all these "imams" you keep quoting, I am oh-so-sinful. But where are the brothers? Where is the father? Living their lives, thats what.
So will I be punished for the sins of the men in my family? I would hope not. Surely, God will be merciful and recognize that the men in my family do not wish to be the protectors and maintainers of women.