According to some statistics there aren't so many men marrying more then one wife! But my experience is that so many men tell their wifes they are going to! How come this is? And why is it acceptable that a man threats his wife with this, this is not the Sunnah. So how come it's not discussed more that this is not appropriate to do?? I do not find anywhere where Sheiks and Imams talk about how a man should deal with this in a sensitive matter. But if I were to told my husband you suck, I'm gonna get a divorce and have another husband! How about that?? I don't think that is an appropriate way to discuss, although it is my right to divorce my husband, how acceptable is it for a women to talk like that?
Everyone talks about how Islam was first with womens right etc, to me it feels like muslim societies are behind the western in thoose questions.
I'd really really would like to hear a Sheik talk about this!
I think deep down Propeth Muhammed saws, would be ashamed of how people act upon the Sunnah. Yes Sunnah to have more wifes?? What is the Sunnah to treat one first of all.. As I can remember he specifically said The best among you are thoose who are the best to your wife/wifes and I am the best! Yes, he already there told men they cannot be fair with women. Remember Profeth Muhammed saws was the messenger of Allah! He was not an ordinary man! And for a man who is not fair between his wifes he will find himself comes to hell with one side hanging?? Isn't that enough to frightened a true muslim regard taking another wife?
Bismillah
Many Muslim men nowadays are a joke. I am a brother and I say as it is. The Sunnah is strange. I feel sorry for you sister. We have to remember that we live at a time where people claiming to be Muslims dont even practice Tawhid. Dont warn against Bid'ah. Read this:
The scholars differed as to whether a divorce given in jest counts as a divorce. The majority are of the view that it does count as such, and they quoted as evidence the report narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are three matters in which seriousness is serious and joking is serious: marriage, divorce and taking back (one’s wife).” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2194; al-Tirmidhi, 1184; Ibn Maajah, 2039. The scholars differed as to whether this report is saheeh (sound) or da’eef (weak). Al-Albaani classed it as hasan in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 1826.
A similar meaning was narrated in mawqoof reports from some of the Sahaabah.
It was narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “There are
four things which become binding if they are spoken:
divorce, manumission, marriage and vows.”
It was narrated from ‘Ali (may Allaah be pleased with him): “There are three
in which jesting is like seriousness:
divorce, marriage and manumission.”
Abu’l-Darda’ said: “There are
three matters in which jesting is just as valid as saying them seriously:
divorce, marriage and manumission.”
Yoonus Ibn ‘Ubayd said:
“There is nothing stranger than the Sunnah
and stranger still is the one who knows it”
It is also reported that he said:
“It has come to the point that one who knows the Sunnah will think it is something strange, and stranger than this person is who finds the Sunnah something familiar.”
[Laalikaa'ee, #21 & Ibn Batta, #20]
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “
Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969). Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb (no. 1949).
