:salam2:Asja Baji
Bismillaheerahmaneer Raheem
Verily all Praise is due to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla; we seek his aid, and help, through all our Problems. Whoever Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla guides, none can misguide, and whoever Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla allows to be misguided, none can guide him. May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla bestow his Mercy and Eternal blessings upon the Anbiyya (A.S.Wa/Salam) and their families, and also upon Rasulallah (SAW), his family, and those who follow upon his way (Ahl as Sunnah wa al Jamaat; wa as Salaf as Salih Raheemahumullah). And Verily! To Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla belongs all Praise.
To answer these questions below:
Assalamu Allaucomu wa rahmatullah Wa Barakatuhu dear brothers and sisters.
May you all be in the best state of heath and faith Inshallah.
Like you all know it is our duty to seek knowlodge Alhamdulillah and to ask questions on which we do not have answer,or answers which we do not understand.
I know that we all on TTI are not schoolars but some have more knowlodge about some issues.
First question: We all know that our Prophet Mohammed s.a.w.s marry hazrat Aisha when she was 6-9 years old.So,my question is.....Is it permissible for every other Muslim man to marry a child of 8 or 9 years???I mean with this on mattrimonial contract.
But waht happens if a girl reach her maturity with 9 years, and she need to be married for "real" for that man??????I hope Inshallah you understand me.
Second question:Like we all know by Shariah Low for valid marriege it need to be presented consent of girl that is geting marry.Like we all know child can reach her maturity with 14,15,16 years or even with less ages.Do you think that this child can bring so importante decision like is marrriege???
Third question:Is this mean that Allah subhan we teal alowed marriege with a child because we know that persone of 8,9,10,11,12,13,14,5,16 years is a child.Astagfirullah.:astag:
The case about Rasulallah (SAW) marrying Aishah (RA) has many points to make out. One, is that in that specific time that Rasulallah (SAW) was sent (Jahliyyah), things such as female infanticide, polygomy, and child marriage had existed throughout the world (not just the Peninsula).
And during it was actually BEFORE ISLAM that child marriage was practiced. A human does NOT have the means to have a child until they have matured (which is after puberty), and THAT is the first requirement for marriage in Islam.
But the case is, that due to the specific kind of climate, females would attain puberty at early ages in the Arabian Peninsula (and the other dessert places), and Aishah (RA) had attained her's at nine.
And sister, remember what I said about the fact that child marriage existed heavily during Jahliyyah throughout the WORLD. And so it was not a new practice that came in from Islam, rather, it was a practice that existed for CENTURIES.
Another point to make is that we have heared from many sources (the moderator brothers have given information about) how Aishah (RA) was actually ENGAGED TO ANOTHER MALE before Rasulallah (SAW), but Abu Bakr as-Sideeq (RA) had the engagement stop (meaning Aishah (RA) was no longer engaged to that male). So this shows that if Rasulallah (SAW) did not marry Aishah (RA), then another man was about to!
Anther case that you mentioned sister was that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla ordered that Rasulallah (SAW) was to marry Aishah (RA), and you wondered why Rasulallah (SAW) accepted it?
One main reason why he accepted it was because it was the ORDER of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla, and even though Rasulallah (SAW) had the SOFTEST HEART, he also NEVER fell short in obeying Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla (such examples are like with Banu Qurayzha, who Allah (SWT) ordered to be punished, and Rasullah (SAW) didn't hesitate when he was ordered to be ready for fighting more).
But another question that comes to someone's mind would be: Would Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla be unjust?
No. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla is NOT unjust at all; and let us remember this saying by Ibn al Taymiyyah (Rahmatuhu wa Raheemahullah)
"Every Punishment of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla is pure Justice, and every blessing from him is (from his) pure grace."
-Sheikh al Islam Ibn al Taymiyyah (RA)
And if we comprehend the meaning of this saying deeply, we come to the connclusion that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla blesses because of his Grace, and if he Punishes, then it is for a just reason. Just like how it is just to punish a rapist by flogging (to death) in Sharia Law. The rapist commited an evil deed, and so that is why he must be punished.
But what REALLY was the reason why Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla had Aishah (RA) married to Rasulallah (SAW) in her small age?
See it this way (Inshallah): Let's say you have siblings, or family memebers, and you spend time with them EXTREMELY for a VERY LONG TIME, who knows more about those family memebers and siblings? You, or their friends?
The reason why Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla had Aishah (RA) married to Rasulallah (SAW) married to Aishah (RA) would be with her husband, Rasulallah (SAW) most of the time. And that is what happened.
And Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla had that to happen in order to Honour Aishah (RA), because she was one of the GREATEST teachers of this Ummah. Since she spent a lot of time with Rasulallah (SAW), she had gained a lot of Knowledge about the Deen of Islam (she narrarated about 2,100+ Hadeeth), and after the death of Rasulallah (SAW), she USED that Knowledge to teach the Tabi'ee, until she reached the age of about 54, when she passed away (36 years after the death of Rasulallah) (SAW).
How did Rasulallah (SAW) treat Aishah (RA)?
From Rasulallah (SAW)'s time that he speant with Aishah (RA), we learn about how he was very kind to her (he would ask her permission in order to do something, like when they were sleeping using the same blanket, and he asked her if he could get up for Fajr Salat).
Aishah (RA) in turn, loved Rasulallah (SAW), and did not mind of his age. She was always obediant and helping him, and she would not want him to be away from her.
Rasulallah (SAW) being an old Pedeophile?
Let us note here, that Rasulallah (SAW) was about 50 when he was engaged/married to Aishah (RA).
That was around the time before the Muslims had officially made Hijrah to Medinah (at that time, Yathrib). During that last year in Mecca, Rasulallah (SAW) would travel around (or send his delegates) to the other Arabian tribes, and give Dawah to those tribes (to accept Islam), and to help Rasulallah (SAW).
Rasulallah (SAW) also would give Dawah to the tribe leaders when the time for Hajj came. In one instance, Rasulallah (SAW) gave Dawah to this one leader of a tribe about Islam, and about how the Muslims need help and support (and to help and support the Muslims if you accept Islam).
Hearing Rasulallah (SAW)'s unique way of speech, the Tribal Leader said: "He has such an elegant and unique way of preaching. By Allah, if I swore allegiance to this
young man, I would be able to conquer Arabia."
(-Recored in Seerah Ibn as Haaq (Rahmatullahe Aleyh) I summarized from what I heard about this incident. The lectures can be found on IslamBase.Info)
YOUNG MAN?! BUT RASULALLAH (SAW) WAS 50 YEARS OLD!
Exactly! Even due to his age, Rasulallah (SAW)'s health was like that of a mature man (which is about the age of thirty), and so, even though he (Rasulallah) (SAW) was 50 years old, he still looked very young.
In Sahih al Bukhari, there is a Hadith in which Rasulallah (SAW) was with his wives (which means it happened in Medinah). When asked about Rasulallah (SAW)'s strength, the Sahabi (RAM) said that
he had the strength of thirty men.
And it is common amongst the Anbiyya (AS Wa/Salam) to have such kind of Blessed characteristics (such as: Ya'qub (AS) being able to interpret dreams; Yusuf (AS) being extremely beautiful; Esa (AS) being born without a father; Adam (AS) being the father of humankind; etc).
So, here, we can conclude that Rasulallah (SAW) was NOT an old man, rather, he was just old in his age, but pyhsically, he was like a young mature man (which is about 30, like Esa) (AS).
Forcing her against her will?
We all know that since Aishah (RA) was married at the age of nine, and so she reached puberty by that age. That means that during the ENTIRE TIME Rasulallah (SAW) and Aishah (RA) were married, they would have had a baby if he had made sexual contact with our Mother, Aishah (RA).
But unless we find a strong and Authentic Hadeeth (and a scholarly commentary) that show that Rasulallah (SAW) had sexual contact with Aishah (RA), then we CAN'T assume that they did, because if that had happened, then it is likely that Aishah (RA) would have had a baby from Rasulallah (SAW), but she didn't.
And THAT IS WHY Aishah (RA) spent the rest of her life teaching about Islam after the death of Rasulallah (SAW), because she didn't have the responsibility of taking care of a child (being a mother).
Females being Married in Islam
In Islam, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla has blessed us in having an easier way of life. For marriage, the only things that a person needs in order for the marriage to be vaild would be: The basic necessary things (the dowry, permission from two Mahrams of the female, etc.) and an agreement by both the male and female to accept getting married together, because in Islam, a person is NOT allowed to get married against their will.
So that means: That if Umar ibn al Khattab (RA) asked Ali (RA)'s daughter's hand in marriage; the marriage would be vaild if there was her father's okay, and if she said YES to get married. REGARDLESS, if the man has already been married, is disabled, or is old, as long as HE wants to get married, and the Muslimah who's hand he seeks in marriage SAYS YES, then the marriage may take place.
So if a man who is 30+ wants to get married to a Muslim Sister who is 15, then it's alright if she agrees. But if she does NOT agree and does NOT want to get married, then the marriage is Invalid, by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla's law.
And the parents or the male must ASK permission to the Muslimah to marry her, and if she says "yes," then they can get married, but if she does NOT want to get married, then she MUST SAY NO as her answer, and the parents and male MUST respect her decision and NOT force her to get married.
Another thing is that the person needs to use their brain correctly and anwer this question if he wants to marry that way:
It's the
21st century, NOT 7th-12th century A.D, are you REALLY going to think that a girl would want to marry a male who is two or three times her age? Like SERIOUSLY, if the answer is NO, then DON'T! THINK THAT SHE'S GOING TO WANT TO MARRY YOU.
And Verily, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla knows best, and may he forgive me for any of my mistakes and have the truth to be known (towards this issue), Ameen.
-Abdul Hasib, Marriage with Young Females 4/19/09 TurnToIslam.Com
And if I sounded harsh in what I have said, PLEASE know this Asja Baji, that I was giving my answer on a general stance, and I WASN'T directing all of what I said to you, Asja Baji (even though I was answering this mainly to you); and PLEASE don't think that anything is your fault Asjja Baji, because this all actually started out from Waswasa, because Iblees KNOWS that you Love Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla, and so he wanted you to think this way in order for you to falter in your Love for Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla and to think that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla is unfair or unjust (which he isn't, and which I KNOW that you don't think that he's like that).
And so you DID do the right thing in asking these questions to us Asja Baji, because now you (Inshallah), understand more about Aishah (RA)'s marriage with Rasulallah (SAW) and about child marriage.
(Actually, INSHALLAH everyone undertood what I said. Because I'm sorry if I'm unclear in the way I talk, I have speech problems in which I can't talk correctly and my words are unclear many times
It pains me that this is the case with me, because now, I feel like as if I won't be able to be great like Sheikh ibn a Taymiyyah (RA) and unite this Ummah upon the Sunnah of Rasulallah (SAW) due to these problems
Please make dua for me brothers and sisters.
)
And also PLEASE don't be upset and depressed Asja Baji. I can't stand it when you feel so upset and sad!
And whenever you feel that way, I start feeling upset too, and I feel like as if I just CAN'T stay happy aslong as you're not
But Jazakallah Kyr and Barakallahu Feek for allowing me to talk to you Asja Baji, because I was feeling really upset (to the point that I felt like I was crying, but the tears were coming from my heart, and my throat had a lump in it), but when I started remembering about you, it felt as if all my sadness had just washed away, and I was feeling better again. And so thanks Asja Baji for being there for me like a Big Sister, because someone like you (and this other sister that I'm not going to mention) is like someone who I can lookup to as a role model, so I'm grateful to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta Alla that he has guided me to the Sunnah and given me great sisters who I can look up to, and Verily, I have no one by my side who I Love more than Him, and there's no one who I need to be by my side and Love me more than him, because he's My Protector, and my Rabee.
And Verily, to him belongs all Praise and Gratitude, who no amount if Ebadah is enough to thank him with for being my Rabee, and who I can find support, Love, and Comfort from.
And maybe one day, I might be able to see the face of him and his beloved, and be with both of them, and then, will I feel eternally happy.........
