Umm Aysha
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Asalaamu'alaykum
Making Marriage Easy
Have a look at these beautiful ahaadeeth:
Sahl Bin Sa'd (raa) reported that a woman once came to the Prophet (saw) and offered herself (in mariage) to him. He (saw) declined and indicated that he had no need for any aditional wives. A man who was present with him said, " O Allah's messenger! Marry her to me." The Prophet (saw) asked him, "Do you have anything (to give her)?" He said "No!" The Prophet (saw) said, "Give her atleast an iron ring". But he still could not afford it. He (saw) asked him " Do you memorize any portion of the Qu'ran?". He replied, "I memorise such-and-such surahs". The Prophet (saw) then said:
"Go (have her as wife). I marry her to you for the portion of Qu'ran that you memorize"1
One may ask, " what benefit did she get from his memorization of the Qu'ran?" The answer is that he would then be expected to teach her some of what he had memorized, and to treat her kindly based on what he had memorized. All of that would be of much more benefit to the bride than lots of material gifts. It is an act that will count towards Al-Akhira.
Abu Hurayrah (raa) reported that the Messenger (saw) said:
" A woman is sought in marriage for four reasons: wealth, social status, beauty, and din. So seek the one with din- may you then be successful."
A'ishah (raa) reported that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
" Marriage is a sunnah (way) of mine; and whoever does not follow my Sunnah is not of my followers. Get maried because I will display your outnumbering the other nations on the Day of Resurrection. Whoever has wealth should get married, and whoever does not should fast, because fasting is a restraint (of desire) for him"3
Ibn Abbas (raa) reported that a man came to the Prophet (saw) and said, "We have an orphan girl under our custody. A poor man and a rich man have both courted her. She prefers the poor man, but we prefer the rich man. (What should we do?)" The Prophet (saw) responded:
"For those who like each other, nothing has proven as good as marriage"4
How simple can life get? If you have found the right one, just do it. Don’t wait for eternity for them while saving up just to get her. This ahadeeth keeps marriages simple. Unfortunately, culture makes everyone’s life very hard. Even the hard working man will have to save so much money just to marry his lady.
Simplicity is the best.
Forget what others want, do what Allah wants and what our dear Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) practiced.
I have selected some ahadeeth, which I felt are important to share with others.
(raa) ra'iya lahu 'anhu.
(saw) sala Allahu aleyhi wa salem.
1.Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others.
2. The Prophet said "May your hands be filled with dust" This expression was common during the Prophet's (saw) time, and it was not meant literally. It is an exclamation phrase reflecting encouragement or applause. Recorded by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others.
3. Recorded by Ibn Majah. Verified to be authentic by al-Albani (as-Sahihah no. 2383).
4. Recorded by Ibn Majah, al-Hakim, and others. Verified to be authentic by al-Albani (as-Sahihah no. 624).
If you would like more information please refere to :
The Quest for love and mercy, Regulations for marriage and wedding in islaam, by Muhammad al-Jibaly
Making Marriage Easy
Have a look at these beautiful ahaadeeth:
Sahl Bin Sa'd (raa) reported that a woman once came to the Prophet (saw) and offered herself (in mariage) to him. He (saw) declined and indicated that he had no need for any aditional wives. A man who was present with him said, " O Allah's messenger! Marry her to me." The Prophet (saw) asked him, "Do you have anything (to give her)?" He said "No!" The Prophet (saw) said, "Give her atleast an iron ring". But he still could not afford it. He (saw) asked him " Do you memorize any portion of the Qu'ran?". He replied, "I memorise such-and-such surahs". The Prophet (saw) then said:
"Go (have her as wife). I marry her to you for the portion of Qu'ran that you memorize"1
One may ask, " what benefit did she get from his memorization of the Qu'ran?" The answer is that he would then be expected to teach her some of what he had memorized, and to treat her kindly based on what he had memorized. All of that would be of much more benefit to the bride than lots of material gifts. It is an act that will count towards Al-Akhira.
Abu Hurayrah (raa) reported that the Messenger (saw) said:
" A woman is sought in marriage for four reasons: wealth, social status, beauty, and din. So seek the one with din- may you then be successful."
A'ishah (raa) reported that Allah's Messenger (saw) said:
" Marriage is a sunnah (way) of mine; and whoever does not follow my Sunnah is not of my followers. Get maried because I will display your outnumbering the other nations on the Day of Resurrection. Whoever has wealth should get married, and whoever does not should fast, because fasting is a restraint (of desire) for him"3
Ibn Abbas (raa) reported that a man came to the Prophet (saw) and said, "We have an orphan girl under our custody. A poor man and a rich man have both courted her. She prefers the poor man, but we prefer the rich man. (What should we do?)" The Prophet (saw) responded:
"For those who like each other, nothing has proven as good as marriage"4
How simple can life get? If you have found the right one, just do it. Don’t wait for eternity for them while saving up just to get her. This ahadeeth keeps marriages simple. Unfortunately, culture makes everyone’s life very hard. Even the hard working man will have to save so much money just to marry his lady.
Simplicity is the best.
Forget what others want, do what Allah wants and what our dear Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) practiced.
I have selected some ahadeeth, which I felt are important to share with others.
(raa) ra'iya lahu 'anhu.
(saw) sala Allahu aleyhi wa salem.
1.Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others.
2. The Prophet said "May your hands be filled with dust" This expression was common during the Prophet's (saw) time, and it was not meant literally. It is an exclamation phrase reflecting encouragement or applause. Recorded by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others.
3. Recorded by Ibn Majah. Verified to be authentic by al-Albani (as-Sahihah no. 2383).
4. Recorded by Ibn Majah, al-Hakim, and others. Verified to be authentic by al-Albani (as-Sahihah no. 624).
If you would like more information please refere to :
The Quest for love and mercy, Regulations for marriage and wedding in islaam, by Muhammad al-Jibaly