On that we agree. And the sisters should be patient because I am pretty sure not all of the Prophets wifes wanted to share him with other women and the same goes for the wifes of the sahabah but they kept silent and did not say do not take a second or third or fouth wife or they did not threaten to divorce them if they did because they did love for their sisters what they loved for themselfs..
Assalamu alaykum,
It is our duty to give salams to our fellow Muslim brothers and sisters.
Secondly, yes it is allowed to marry upto four wives. What you say is partially true, but it requires understanding and further explanation. I fear that your statement is too general and can be misunderstood. Also, you should not be "pretty sure". There is no such thing as being pretty sure when we discuss our beloved Prophet
and his family, or anything in Islam. We must be firm in our Islamic stance, having strong backing of the Quran, Sunnah and also the Fahm of the Salaf, understanding of the pious predecessors.
I believe it is especially critical to have the understanding on issues such as those that are related to family matters to avoid misinterpreting and creating situations which are not those that are not from our beautiful Deen of Islam.
From what i have seen in my experience especially some of the brothers who claim to be practising Islam in the West, they take the issue of Marriage and divorce very very lightly.
So, sisters should always be careful and do things from their own choice. Women have a choice,
they are not animals.
Sisters have a Right not to get married to brothers who already have wives. Women can make a prenuptial agreement to state that her husband can not marry again whilst she is married to him. This is a binding agreement. As long as both consent it is fine. The Kibar Ulema have agreed to this.
So thats for married women, women who are not married, have a choice.. for example, they dont have to marry any one who they do not want to.
They do not have to marry the first person they meet, when looking to get married! Some brothers put pressure on them on the sisters to get married.
its THEIR CHOICE who to marry, whether he is single, or not. Whether he is a rich, unmarried, religious brother, whether he is poor, or whatever person they reject. Likewise, They do not have to marry a guy who has 3 wives 15 children and is unemployed.
Not all women are the same, everyone has different preferences etc.
So, yes, the Prophet
wives were like that, they were the best of women and he was the best of all men. But, this does not mean it is obligatory for women to marry men without having a choice. This is extremism and it is not from Islam.
So some brothers need to fear Allah and not try and tell sisters that they should get married and shutup because more than one wife is allowed. They should not stalk and pester sisters or make them do something that will destroy their families i.e their relationship with their parents.
Unfortunately, some brothers have taken opportunity to make fatawa against brothers and sisters, they disregard marriages at blink of an eye, and misuse Islam for their own ends. They love making fatwa and they love power. May Allah guide them.
But, at end of the day, we have to wait for the Shayookh to address the extremists that have appeared in the West who use their names and keep spreading the lies that they are backed by them.
Wasalam.