what is your test?

what are you tested on the most in this life?

  • health

    Votes: 11 8.5%
  • family

    Votes: 34 26.2%
  • financial

    Votes: 13 10.0%
  • sexual desire

    Votes: 40 30.8%
  • other desire

    Votes: 5 3.8%
  • other problems

    Votes: 27 20.8%

  • Total voters
    130

a_brother

Make dua for us all
Well I gues I can't really tell what my greatest test in life is, but I guess that it's that I should always remember that whenever I feel down, like whenver I feel so upset with myself for what I've done, that I should always remember to start all over again, always know that no matter how much bad things I do, Allah Ta Alla will never stop loving me, and that I should not let the Shayateens Waswasa and my shortcomings to make me put myself down so much that I start seeing myself as a hypocrite (I remember this year at the beginning of the year when I was SO bad, I think I was doing a Takfir on myself, I was saying to myself that I'm such a bad person, how can I call myself a Muslim? And at times I would cry and say to myself, "Your not a Muslim anymore, your just a stupid little idiot"), but another thing about me is that even after I do Tawbah, no matter how many times I've done Tawbah, no matter to what extent I feel bonded with Allah Ta Alla, when I remember how mcu habd things I use to do I just break up in tears and I start feeling like I can never forgive myself for what I've done, but Allah Ta Alla has been mercidull and kind to me, and with him by me when I need somone to lean on, he always makes me find hope and dream about being better, and I know that there's no better support and love to me than that of the support and love that Allah Ta Alla has had upon me.

:salam2: brother... MashaAllah...

"Allah the Almighty has said: 'O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me, and hope in Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds in the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I shall forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with an earthful of sins and were you then to face Me, without having associated anything with Me, I shall grant you an earthful of pardon.'"
 

palestine

Servant of Allah
my struggel is first and foremost anger. controlling it is a problem for me. my other biggest problem is health. i've been sick for more than 14 years and no medication was able to cure my aches. anyhow i'm still living and breathing. inshaAllah i wanna go to hajj someday, i believe that would be a cure for every thing in my life. just a feeling i have. to be specific just to share with you all, my sickness is ear aches. i've had about 4 surgeries and ever since i was two or 3 years i've had this infection in my ears. it still is a big issue. it really is painful. also i have pain around my liver or pancreas, i'm not sure what place it is. the doctors are unable to detect anything. they keep telling me i'm fine, while i can't stand for more than 5 mins. and i also have many more illnesses. but alhamdulillah over all i'm well. because hey, there are those who are worse then me. cancer, aids, stds, and many other sicknesses. i got to go. later everyone. asalamu alaykum
 

Zaynab123

Subhana Allah!
:salam2:

oh thats sad sister palestine, i was wondering what had happened to u and sister Amirah. it was about two weeks. i really did missed u sisters. and now Alhamdulilah u r back but, i still don't know what happened to sis amirah. i hope to see her soon insha Allah. may Allah subhana wata'ala make things easier for u ameen and all of us that are having such problems ameen...:hearts:

:wasalam:
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Salaam,

Sweet sweet Palestine...often I think you are not angry. Let us say you are young and full of life. It comes with youth. You are on a roller coaster. Your love for Islam indicates the depth of your feelings. I think of the beautiful videos you posted. You had me in tears. You are in our hearts, little daughter. Do not be so hard on yourself. It will ease the physical pain. We love you.
 

palestine

Servant of Allah
Salaam,

Sweet sweet Palestine...often I think you are not angry. Let us say you are young and full of life. It comes with youth. You are on a roller coaster. Your love for Islam indicates the depth of your feelings. I think of the beautiful videos you posted. You had me in tears. You are in our hearts, little daughter. Do not be so hard on yourself. It will ease the physical pain. We love you.
JazakaAllahu khayran ukhti mirajmom. you really are an inspiration mashaAllah. trust me i'm angry. i'm a ticking bomb. lol. but i'm working on that. ive promised myself and Allah that i would be a better muslim and inshaAllah i will be. Allah does not abandon his servants, and i shall not despair of his mercy or hope. i'm glad that the videos i have posted have made you cry, of course in a good way. Jazakallahu khayran ukhti. you don't know how much i love you. often i think of my anger, i think of how to try and control it but everytime i lose in doing so. i'm even afraid of the future. of not being a zawjatu saliha(righteous wife) or mother if i get married. i feel that i would be responsible for ruining another being's life due to my anger. i don't want that to happen and that is what scares me the most. i'm usually a happy person, but when someone crosses me, i snap easily. asalamu alaykum wrwb.
 

palestine

Servant of Allah
:salam2:

oh thats sad sister palestine, i was wondering what had happened to u and sister Amirah. it was about two weeks. i really did missed u sisters. and now Alhamdulilah u r back but, i still don't know what happened to sis amirah. i hope to see her soon insha Allah. may Allah subhana wata'ala make things easier for u ameen and all of us that are having such problems ameen...:hearts:

:wasalam:

sister jazakaAllahu khayran for your concern. and since you missed us, i will be back more often inshaAllah. don't miss my videos or posts. lol. ameen to your dua and i hope the same for you sis. i've been busy with kids. my sister's children. i've been helping her ever since they were born. they're 4 children, oh and they scream really loud. lol. i wake up in the morning brush my teeth and wash my face and go straight to them( they're next door to us). i stay their taking care of them and helping my sister keep the house clean until midnight. i take the kids for a walk in the afternoon. so i've been busier lately. she usually does the cooking. i do the rest. cleaning, changing diapers, giving them a bath, taking them for a walk...ugh. mashaAllah though, someday they will be good kids and take care of me. lol. oh and i also clean the other house, the one that my mom, dad and siblings live at. washing dishes, and vaccuming and putting everything in place...ugh. lol but hey my sisters' go to work and i'm the youngest girl, so they use that as an execuse. and of course i don't want my mother to do the work of the house. i feel guilty later so i'd rather be tired and do all the work, rather then her doing it and me feeling guilty later. i just hope Allah rewards me for it. i do not need the reward of the family, only that of Allah swt. asalamu alaykum wrwb. and i love you dear sis.
 

danyal_1992

Junior Member
:salam2:
I have 3 siblings but they do not pray namaz.they watch movies and listen to songs.They are born muslims but they dont fulfill their duties as muslims.They know about Muslims history more than me but dont practice Islam.when I call my brother to salah he dont answer correctly and he dont go TO SALAH.How should I do Islah to them?.My mother and father they also dont practice Islam correctly.Any one who is facing these prob plzz give me any ideas.
:wasalam:
 

a_brother

Make dua for us all
:salam2: brothers and sisters :)

Trials

http://abdurrahman.org/character/trialsqasim.html

Trials​

by Imâm al-Madîna al-Munawarrah 'Abdul Muhsin Ibn Muhammad al-Qâsim
Friday Sermon from the Prophet's Mosque in Madina, on 5th Muharram 1422AH
http://www.islaam.net
Al-Jum'ah 5 Muharram, 1422 (20 March, 2001)​

All praise is due to Allaah, may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger saws, his household and companions.

Fellow Muslims! Fear Allaah as he should be feared, for fear of Allaah brings more blessings and prevents afflictions.

Dear Muslims! Allaah has foreordained the fate of all creatures, written down their impacts and deeds, portioned out between them their livelihood and wealth and created death and life that He may test them which of them is best in deed. Indeed, belief in Allaah's decree and preordainment is one of the pillars of faith. Nothing happens in this universe except by His will.

This life is full of misfortune and sorrow. It is destined to be a place of hardships and trouble. Trials and tribulations are as inevitable in this life as cold and heat. Allaah says,

"And certainly We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to those who are patient."

Pre-destination is a test by which the truthful ones are distinguished from untruthful ones. Allaah says,

"Do people think that they will be left alone because they say, 'We believe,' and will not be tested." (29: 2)

The human soul does not become pure except through trials, and it is during tribulations that real men are known. Ibn Jawzee said,

"Whoever wants to have everlasting peace and well-being with no affliction does not understand the meaning of Allaah's commandments, nor does he perceive the meaning of submission to Allaah. Every soul (either believing or disbelieving) shall inevitably taste suffering in this world, for this life is based on hardships. Man lives between comfort and suffering.

Prophet Aadam, for instance, had the angels prostrated before him and yet was soon after expelled from paradise. A believer is afflicted with trials in order to refine him, not to punish him. He is tested in ease as well as in hardship. Allaah says,

"And We tried them with good (blessings) and evil (calamities) in order that they might turn (to Allaah's obedience)." (Al-A'raaf 7: 168).

Brothers in faith! Something undesireable may sometimes have a pleasant result, while something seemingly desirable may turn out to have an unpleasant and abominable result. Do not therefore feel that harmful things cannot come to you through hardship. Allaah says,

"…And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows, and you do not know." (Al-Baqarah 2: 216).

Prepare yourself mentally for afflictions before they occur so as to make their occurrence light on you. Do not be worried because of tribulations, for they have their limits, and watch what you utter during your hard times for many a word has ruined its utterer. A resolute Muslim stands firm during hardships, his heart does not change and he does not complain. Console yourself whenever afflicted with a promise of reward from Allaah. Wise people show endurance whenever they are stricken with misfortune so as not to add to their misfortune the malicious joy of their enemies, for whenever your enemies know of your misfortune they are overjoyed.

Brothers in Islaam! Endeavour to keep your misfortunes and pains to yourself, for concealment of afflictions and pains are of the qualities of noble people. Be patient over afflictions, they will soon be removed from you. Those who perished only suffered that because of their impatience while the patient ones are being recompensed with good rewards. Allaah says,

"And those who are patient, we will certainly pay them a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do." (Al-Anaam 16:96).

The reward of the patient ones will be doubled for their patience and Allaah will be with them, remove their afflictions and make them victorious.

O afflicted one! Your Lord does not deny you what you want except what is better than that, He does not test you but for your well-being and He does not subject you to tribulations but to purify you. He tries His slaves with pleasure as he blesses them with calamity. Do not therefore waste your time thinking over what has already been guaranteed for you. As long as one is still alive his provision will no doubt come to him. Allaah ta'ala says,

"And no (moving) living creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allaah." (Hood 11:6).

Further, if Allaah – out of His wisdom – closes a door against you, He opens out of His mercy a door better for you than the closed one. It is by afflictions that righteous and understanding people are increased in rank and reward. Sa'ad bin Abee Waqqaas said

: I said, "O Messenger of Allaah, who are the most afflicted of all people? He replied saws, "The Prophets, then the righteous people, then those who are nearest to them in perfection and those who are nearest to them. Man is tested according to his religiosity; if he is strong religiously, his test is increased and if he is weak in religion, his test is reduced And a believer will be tested until he walks on the earth sinless [i.e. his sins have been erased by series of afflictions that he endured.]" (Al-Bukhari)

Fellow Muslims! Prophet Aadam laboured along difficult paths beset with affliction; Prophet Ibraheem was thrown into a blazing fire; Ismaeel was laid down for slaughter; Yoonus was swallowed by a whale; Prophet Aayoob suffered from a severe illness; Yoosuf was sold for a pittance, thrown into a well and wrongfully jailed and Muhammed saws suffered different kinds of injury. You also are in path of calamities moving, for the life does not give pleasure only to anyone. The Prophet saws said,

"If Allaah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials." (Al-Bukharee).

Some people of knowledge said,

"Whoever Allaah creates for paradise will be having trials and undesirable things."

Real trial, dear brothers, is the trial in one's religion and whatever trial besides that is regarded as well being, for it raises one in the rank and erases ones sins. Also all comforts that do not bring one closer to Allaah is a tribulation. Do not therefore grieve over what you miss in worldly materials, for worldly pleasure begets pain and disobedience. Aboo Dardaa said,

"Of the insignificance of this world to Allaah is that He is not disobeyed except in it, while what is with Him cannot be obtained except by abstaining from it. Engage yourself in what will benefit you more. Keep away from what is in peoples' hands you will be the wealthiest of them; do not lose hope in Allaah's mercy lest you are disgraced; always remember Allaah's favour on you and drive away your distress by being pleased with Allaah's decree, for however long the night may be, it will be followed by the dawn. Supplicate to Allaah. He will give you relief and if you are patient Allaah will provide a way out for you. Ponder over the story of Prophet Ya'qoob who lost a son for a long period and yet did not lose hope of relief from the Almighty One, but rather said, "Maybe Allaah will bring them all (back) to me."

Dear brother! It is only Allaah who deserves all praise and is capable of attending to all complaints. It is only Him you must beseech to remove your misfortunes. Pray to Him during the night with submission and humbleness and request Him to make your affairs easy for you. He says,

"Is it not He who responds to the distressed one when he calls Him (better than your gods.)" (27: 62)

Put your trust in the Omnipotent Lord and take refuge with Him with a humble heart, He will open the doors of His mercy for you. Fudayl ben 'Iyaadh said,

"If you lose hope in all people and you do not ask anything from them, your Lord will give you all that you want."

Whoever leaves his affairs to the hands of Allaah will achieve what he aspires: Always recite the prayer of Prophet Yoonus:



لا إله إلا أنت سبحانك إني كنت من الظالمين


"None has the right to worshipped except You (O Allaah) Glorifed (and exalted) are You (above all that they associate with You) Truly I have been of the wrong doers."


The 'Ulamaa said,

"No one In distress recites this prayer except that Allaah gives him relief from his distress."

Ibn al-Qayyim said, "It has been tested that whoever says:

إني مسني الضر و أنت أرحم الراحمين

"Verily distress has seized me and You are the most merciful of all those who show mercy!"


Seven times Allaah relieves him of his distress! Put then yourself under the protection of Allaah, depend upon Him, submit your affairs to Him and ask Him for relief. Try to supplicate in the most appropriate periods like during prostration and the last hour of the night. Do not feel uneasy if your supplications have not yet been answered, and do not lose hope of Allaah's mercy even though the period of your affliction may seem long, for relief is near, and continue to pray to Allaah. Also know that when Allaah afflicts you no one except Him is capable of removing that affliction for He does whatever He wills.

If your provision seems delayed, do a lot of istighfar, for misdeeds necessitate punishment; and if it does not seem that your supplications are having any impact, then examine yourself, for it may be that you have not been sincere in your repentance. Endeavour also, to give charity to the needy, for charity prevents and removes affliction. However, if your affliction is removed, give a lot of thanks and praise to your Lord and know that a false sense of safety is a big trial. Allaah says,

"Say: Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allaah has ordained for us. He is our Lord and Protector, and in Alaah let the believers put their trust." (At-Taubah 9: 51).

Dear Muslims! No condition is permanent. Fortunate is he who is always God-conscious. Fear Allaah in any condition you may find yourself. You can do nothing to prevent what has been destined to happen as you do nothing to attain what has not been pre-ordained. The ability to choose and control is with Allaah alone and His choice for His slave is better for him than his choice for himself. Dawood bin Sulaymaan said,

"Three things indicate the piety of a believer; his trust in Allah in what he has not attained; his satisfaction with whatever he has attained and his patience over what he has missed."

A wise man was asked,

"What is wealth?" He replied, "Fewness of one's mundane desires and one's contentment with what suffices him."

Shurayh said,

"A slave will not be afflicted by a trial except that he finds three blessings therein, (1) that the trial has nothing to do with his religion, (2) that the trial was not bigger than it is, and (3) that Allaah gives him patience to bear it."
 

Abdul Hasib

Student of Knowledge
Salaam,

Sweet sweet Palestine...often I think you are not angry. Let us say you are young and full of life. It comes with youth. You are on a roller coaster. Your love for Islam indicates the depth of your feelings. I think of the beautiful videos you posted. You had me in tears. You are in our hearts, little daughter. Do not be so hard on yourself. It will ease the physical pain. We love you.
LoL sister Felasteen is an angry kind of person?

Well she's doing a bad job at showing it. :p
 

ruki4eva

Muslim Unity...
:salam2:
jazakallah for the thread
:ma:
my biggest test was my jinn attack
Alhamdulillah im better now
still hav problems wen im prayin sallah
n sometimes wen im jus sittin down
but i no its a test from Allah
i hav 2 go thru it even dow itz gna b hard
include me in ur duas inshallah
take care
:wasalam:
 

Tru3m0sl3m

Brother in ISLAM
:salam2: brothers and sisters :)

"And certainly We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to those who are patient."

"And We tried them with good (blessings) and evil (calamities) in order that they might turn (to Allaah's obedience)." (Al-A'raaf 7: 168).

"If Allaah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials." (Al-Bukharee).

:salam2:
When i read the above verse from the 2nd surah(with tafseer for the first time in my life).. I forgot everything! Absolutely everything(all the calamities that had been afflicted on me like health problems and being in deep emotional stress, void of love. Basically i was running wild seeking true love)... Subhanallah i was moved to tears when i came to know that someone's out there who really loves me and i never realized it and thats Allah(swt)!
:wasalam:
 

amjaddamen

brother
lol. yes brother i'm an angry person. and trust me, i do show it. alot more often then i need to. :salam2:

:salam2:
sister : dealing with this anger is only by knowing it's reasons , i know every one has a threshold at which he becomes angry . but to become angry most of the times , or to over react when angry , it should be dealt with wisely .
the best course of action is to search and find the reason behind your anger,
for example ,if one is forced to live with bad familly and he can't help it , or he/she forced to study a field he/she don't like .
search you will find for sure an unwanted pressure , and if you find that then you can deal more efciently .

may allah help you and all sisyers and brothers
 

nori suja'i

Junior Member
if we have no promlem in this world, Allah will call us to return. my problem now is my children. it seem i have to tune my voice to higher pitch now.
(only in my hse lol).
 

Abdul Hasib

Student of Knowledge
:salam2:
jazakallah for the thread
:ma:
my biggest test was my jinn attack
Alhamdulillah im better now
still hav problems wen im prayin sallah
n sometimes wen im jus sittin down
but i no its a test from Allah
i hav 2 go thru it even dow itz gna b hard
include me in ur duas inshallah
take care
:wasalam:
That's horrible Ruki Appa! Tell me what happened, I want to know! That's a horrible experiance to go through! *has a sad and worried look on face *

When I ever felt like there was a Jinn around me, then I would say to myself, "I fear no one else but Allah Ta Alla," and that increases your Eman, and at other times whe nI start thinking that I might run out of the room that second, I say, "I'd rather have the protection of Allah Ta Alla," during times when I feel worried, which makes me feel better, and this goes with what would come to someone's mind naturally if they fear something, get help, run, etc. but I say, "In Allah Ta Alla I have put my full trust and I know that he will not fail me," for beleiving that truly in your heart is a sign of Eman, so that scares the Shayateen, and Allah Ta Alla then establishes your preotection.
 

a_brother

Make dua for us all
:salam2:
jazakallah for the thread
:ma:
my biggest test was my jinn attack
Alhamdulillah im better now
still hav problems wen im prayin sallah
n sometimes wen im jus sittin down
but i no its a test from Allah
i hav 2 go thru it even dow itz gna b hard
include me in ur duas inshallah
take care
:wasalam:

Asalamo Alaikom sister :)

my older brother had same issue when he was younger, but AlhamduliLah, he doesn't experience non of that now... so worry not sister :)

Abu al-‘Abbas ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbas, radiyallahu anhuma, reported: One day I was behind the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, and he said to me:

"O young man, I shall teach you some words [of advice] : Be mindful of Allah, and Allah will protect you. Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him in front of you. If you (have need to) ask, ask of Allah; and if you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that even if the Nation (or the whole community) were to gather together to benefit you with something, they would not benefit you with anything except that which Allah has already recorded for you, and that if they gather together to harm you with something, they would not be able to harm you with anything except that which Allah has already recorded against you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

[Al-Tirmidhi relates this and says: It is a good, genuine Hadith]
 

a_brother

Make dua for us all
if we have no promlem in this world, Allah will call us to return. my problem now is my children. it seem i have to tune my voice to higher pitch now.
(only in my hse lol).

:salam2:

LOL, i have to do the same with my nephew, but when i "tune my voice to higher pitch, LOL", i feel as if he won... i don't like to raise my voice, but he gets me crazy, lol... he hates school, and i try to help him with his homework... he "kills me", he knows the answer, but just refuses to use his brain, lol... he's a smart kid, sometimes needs higher volume to get his engine/brain running, lol... however, now i need to use less of my voice as i found a way to work with him :D

wasalamo alaikom
 
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