Salaam,
No-one is saying you are going to marry the girl. What most people are saying is in Islam there are precautions of seeing a girl who is not your intended.
By having a female friend who is not your fiance..you ( general ) are in a state of temptation. There is always tension when non-married people are together. This is not for teenagers only.
Islam relies on the Wisdom of Allah. We are told having girlfriends/boyfriends is not good for us. Think of this simple example. You have a girlfriend in high school.. you become emotionally attached to her...you break-up because you go to college...she will always compare all men including her husband to you. She will never be pleased with another man. Think of all the songs that are dedicated to the first love...she will be unhappy ..because she will be in a state of need...and the same would apply to you...when you marry you enter a relationship with a feeling of loss...
I hope this made some sense to you. Let me know if it did or why it didn't.
No-one is saying you are going to marry the girl. What most people are saying is in Islam there are precautions of seeing a girl who is not your intended.
By having a female friend who is not your fiance..you ( general ) are in a state of temptation. There is always tension when non-married people are together. This is not for teenagers only.
Islam relies on the Wisdom of Allah. We are told having girlfriends/boyfriends is not good for us. Think of this simple example. You have a girlfriend in high school.. you become emotionally attached to her...you break-up because you go to college...she will always compare all men including her husband to you. She will never be pleased with another man. Think of all the songs that are dedicated to the first love...she will be unhappy ..because she will be in a state of need...and the same would apply to you...when you marry you enter a relationship with a feeling of loss...
I hope this made some sense to you. Let me know if it did or why it didn't.