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The thread that iPanda started "She Loves Me" might be a reality for many sisters living in the west, but what is the right approach to deal with such an important issue? To deal with it in a practical and Islamic manner or to sweep it under the carpet and pretend that it can't be happening?
I think as Muslims, we shoud not be afraid of discussing some difficult issues. I do not know what the feelings of other brothers and sisters might be, but I gained alot of benefits from the discussion on the above topic. A few brothers and sisters discussed it in a beautiful manner. It may not be welcomed to start the same topic again, but i feel the need to say that every Muslim's struggle (internal Jihad) might be on a different level. To love Allah and his messenger more than anything else is a target towards which we all Muslims hope to strive, but I am sure we are all at different levels in this regard. What I really want to say is that it is possible that in spite the fact that our Muslim sister in question might be a devout Muslimah, it won't be fair to readily demand her to love Allah more than anything else as before we expect that from her, we should be asking ourselves first, do I love Allah more than anything else? Maybe not all of us will have "yes" answer to it. Then what should be our apporach to such an issue?
First of all, we should not see only bad things about the feelings of iPanda for our Muslim sister. We could ask iPanda 'What attracted you to her even though she is fully covered (rathr than showing her flesh) and she is a Muslim (in light of the fact that women in Islam are not protrayed very well in the dominant media)?' It is possible that iPanda may be attracted to a life of piety and wants a pious woman in his life. Is it then wrong to wish for such a woman to be a wife in one's life? Reverts to Islam have entered this beautiful religion through different leads. Who knows if she causes him to find the way to his Lord? Afterall, many female reverts found it through their male spouses (acknowleging the fact that a Muslimah is not allowed Islamically to marry a non Muslim till he accepts Islam).
As I mentioned previously, most of the above questions have been answered beautifully by some knowledgeable brothers and sisters already. What I wanted to highlight is that, as Muslms, it is necessary to deal with diffcult issues with uderstanding and wisdom (ofcourse, in the light of Quran and Sunnah) rather than with emotions.
When some one comes to us with an advice or comfort, we need to deal with them with kindness and understanding.
How should we be treating our (lost?) brother in humanity is another question that needs pondering. iPanda rightly complained, what about my feelings?
I think as Muslims, we shoud not be afraid of discussing some difficult issues. I do not know what the feelings of other brothers and sisters might be, but I gained alot of benefits from the discussion on the above topic. A few brothers and sisters discussed it in a beautiful manner. It may not be welcomed to start the same topic again, but i feel the need to say that every Muslim's struggle (internal Jihad) might be on a different level. To love Allah and his messenger more than anything else is a target towards which we all Muslims hope to strive, but I am sure we are all at different levels in this regard. What I really want to say is that it is possible that in spite the fact that our Muslim sister in question might be a devout Muslimah, it won't be fair to readily demand her to love Allah more than anything else as before we expect that from her, we should be asking ourselves first, do I love Allah more than anything else? Maybe not all of us will have "yes" answer to it. Then what should be our apporach to such an issue?
First of all, we should not see only bad things about the feelings of iPanda for our Muslim sister. We could ask iPanda 'What attracted you to her even though she is fully covered (rathr than showing her flesh) and she is a Muslim (in light of the fact that women in Islam are not protrayed very well in the dominant media)?' It is possible that iPanda may be attracted to a life of piety and wants a pious woman in his life. Is it then wrong to wish for such a woman to be a wife in one's life? Reverts to Islam have entered this beautiful religion through different leads. Who knows if she causes him to find the way to his Lord? Afterall, many female reverts found it through their male spouses (acknowleging the fact that a Muslimah is not allowed Islamically to marry a non Muslim till he accepts Islam).
As I mentioned previously, most of the above questions have been answered beautifully by some knowledgeable brothers and sisters already. What I wanted to highlight is that, as Muslms, it is necessary to deal with diffcult issues with uderstanding and wisdom (ofcourse, in the light of Quran and Sunnah) rather than with emotions.
When some one comes to us with an advice or comfort, we need to deal with them with kindness and understanding.
How should we be treating our (lost?) brother in humanity is another question that needs pondering. iPanda rightly complained, what about my feelings?