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I took a quiz wizz through this thread and came across brother Mabsoot's post.
Two Hadith from Sahih al Bukhari:
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 17: Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
When I got married, Allah's Apostle said to me, "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron' He said, "Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir also said: Allah's Apostle said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?'
Jazak'Allahu Khairan for sharing the above brother. Regarding the aforementioned Hadith, there are other/similar narrations relating to Jabir bin Abdullah (Radi'Allahu anhu) and his marriage. Lets look at these other narrations which is also mentioned in Sahih Al-Bukhari:
Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 172
Narrated Jabir:
I was with Allah's Apostle in a Ghazwa, and when we returned, I wanted to hurry, while riding a slow camel. A rider came behind me. I looked back and saw that the rider was Allah's Apostle . He said (to me), "What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, "I am newly married." He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "(Not a virgin but) a matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl with whom you could play and who could play with you?" Then when we approached (Medina) and were going to enter (it), the Prophet said, "Wait till you enter (your homes) at night (in the first part of the night) so that the ladies with unkempt hair may comb their hair, and those whose husbands have been absent (for a long time) may shave their pubic hair."
Loans, Payment of Loans, Freezing of Property, Bankruptcy
Volume 3, Book 41, Number 589:
Narrated Jabir:
When 'Abdullah (my father) died, he left behind children and debts. I asked the lenders to put down some of his debt, but they refused, so I went to the Prophet to intercede with them, yet they refused. The Prophet said (to me), "Classify your dates into their different kinds: 'Adhq bin Zaid, Lean and 'Ajwa, each kind alone and call all the creditors and wait till I come to you." I did so and the Prophet came and sat beside the dates and started measuring to each his due till he paid them fully, and the amount of dates remained as it was before, as if he had not touched them.
(On another occasion) I took part in one of Ghazawat among with the Prophet and I was riding one of our camels. The camel got tired and was lagging behind the others. The Prophet hit it on its back. He said, "Sell it to me, and you have the right to ride it till Medina.'' When we approached Medina,
I took the permission from the Prophet to go to my house, saying, "O Allah's Apostle! I have newly married." The Prophet asked, "Have you married a virgin or a matron (a widow or divorcee)?" I said, "I have married a matron, as 'Abdullah (my father) died and left behind daughters small in their ages, so I married a matron who may teach them and bring them up with good manners." The Prophet then said (to me), "Go to your family." When I went there and told my maternal uncle about the selling of the camel, he admonished me for it. On that I told him about its slowness and exhaustion and about what the Prophet had done to the camel and his hitting it. When the Prophet arrived, I went to him with the camel in the morning and he gave me its price, the camel itself, and my share from the war booty as he gave the other people.
Subhan'Allah! The Prophet's companion, Jabir bin Abdullah's answer was full of wisdom! Marriage is not just about 'getting married'...but it's also about making the right decision wisely and appropriately! But even more important is putting your reliance your tawakkul in ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, as marriage is probably the most important and serious decision you would take in your life, however; marriage truely is about naseeb...
May Allah facilitate a pious spouse for us all who is open minded Ameen ya Rabb!
Fi'Amanillah
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