Dawah with a Born-Again Christian

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قل هو الله أحد
Assalamualaikum dear Gazkour,

You are exactly the person i was looking for when i started this thread...Maybe you can help me out here...

I have a very close friend who has recently accepted Jesus (pbuh) as his personal savior and lord...he says that he is able to talk in tongues and his life has changed from Evil to GOOD after he became Born Again.

How can i tell him that his personal experiences (like speaking in tongues etc...) are not from GOD? He is convinced that it is from GOD because his life changed from Evil to Good!! PLEASE ADVICE...

I guess the question should be in reverse. How does he know that he is doing the right thing ? Is he following the bible or just an inner voice ? If he is following an inner voice then what value is the bible ???
 

jamafg

Junior Member
Asalaamun alik ya akhi,
I do really appreciate you effort to find some more convincing response to does that really need to know something from the Qur’an and Hadith, before saying something hazardous based on their affections.
One more thing to all who make confusion between loving non Muslims and respecting them, we as Muslim we are not allowed to love non Muslims, but only respect them. That’s it. Love and respect are two different things!!!
Jazak Allah
Wasalaam
Allah bless all Muslims, Ameen
Assalamu Alaikum brother Munawar,

Assalamu Alaikum sister Sa'diyah,

Assalamu Alaikum sister Mairo,


I can see that you three share very similar positions on a certain issue. Munawar summarized the position of Sa'diyah in four points [in bold type] and then commented on these points in post #18:



Source: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showpost.php?p=153595&postcount=18


I sincerely advise Munawar, Sa'diyah and Mairo to read pages 2, 3 and 4 of the thread "Communicating with kaffir family". Please read all of the 3 pages very carefully. I know my posts are very long, but if you read them carefully, you will -God willing- find the adequate response to points 2, 3 and 4 [That Allah the Almighty is the judge, who are we to judge and only He knows who will enter paradise]:

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=2
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=3
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=4


As to point 1 [the assertion that Allah loves everyone regardless of religion...], Allah the Almighty said:






[The translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 3:32 and footnote [1] is from the website of the King Fahd complex for the Printing of the Holy Qur'an]

Source: http://qurancomplex.org/Quran/Targama/Targama.asp?nSora=3&l=eng&nAya=32#3_32


If we go to the footnote of V.3:85, we find the following in the footnotes:



Source: http://qurancomplex.org/Quran/Targama/Targama.asp?nSora=3&l=eng&nAya=85#3_85


Allah the Almighty has also said:



[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 30:45]


If -after reading the saying of the prophet [peace be upon him] mentioned above- there is still doubt that Jews and Christians in this age are Kuffaar [disbelievers] -and I really don't know how you can doubt that-, then that's an added reason why you should read my posts found in the three links mentioned above very carefully.


Regards,

Bluegazer

Wassalamu Alaikum
 

jamafg

Junior Member
My dear Sister, Salmaamun alik,
I would just tell that as a Muslim we are not allowed to give references from any other sources than the Holy Qur'an and Hadith.
Also as I mentioned in my previous post, loving or respecting a non Muslim are two different things. Loving is not allowed, but you can respect them.
Jazak Allah

[2.285] The apostle believes in what has been revealed to him from his Lord, and (so do) the believers; they all believe in Allah and His angels and His books and His apostles; We make no difference between any of His apostles; and they say: We hear and obey, our Lord! Thy forgiveness (do we crave), and to Thee is the eventual course.

Hello everyone,
I am quite aware of the problems with the transcription and inaccuracy that can be found in the Bible. I still think a person can come to understand God by studying the stories in the Bible, in spite of the errors, if they have been guided by God. This is also stated in the Quran, it is not just my opinion. The only book I will ever fully trust is the Quran. I only refer to the Quran in my posts, not the Bible. I love the religion of Islam. I am a Muslim woman, but I do not reserve kindness and love only towards Muslims. I can recognize a person who is acting upright and understands God, even if they do not wear the name muslim. And I agree with you wholeheartedly with the importance of defending against oppression, persecution and injustice in any form - whether it be yourself or anyone else who may be enduring it.

Peace to you all, and God bless
 

jamafg

Junior Member
:ma: sister, I wish that Allah SWT guide you in the best and correct way that he like it. Ameen
wasalaam
well ive been looking at the site for a year but i think i have been posting for 6 months im not sure.

i have learned a lot about islam different islamic websites, i learned about it from documentaries ( the ones that give historical understanding of islam not biased perspective) and i have read half of the quran the second portion, middle to end, islamic sermons, hadiths, i have always studied religions only the monothesic ones

when i was younger (cuz im 19 yrs now) i was interested in converting to islam at i guess about 13 years old because a lot of the documentaries i seen made islam look super cool because its actual way of life. christianity is not as much of a way of life because we dont have dietary laws, prescribed way of dress, set prayer times etc. so since we dont do things most secular people in the states do, a way of life is made , called "i dont do that" lol. so basically im interested at looking at islamic perspective on world events, social issues. i find it interesting to see westerners revert to islam especially because its very conservative in some ways compared to christianity.
 

jamafg

Junior Member
Dear sister,
Please don't be afraid from the mankind, just seek refugee from Allah SWT, and I'm sure he will help and protect you from the devil.
The only faire you should have is from the Day of judgement and Allah SWT (the creator of all universes). One last thing for your peace of mind that, A God will never die, so that explains all. There is no God than Allah SWT.
Peace and right path for you my sister.

oh the only thing that holds back is the Jesus is God thing, cuz i actually believe that it makes sense to me that "whole thing" cuz i was like oh yea im going 2 convert 2 islam, since muslims state they worship the same God as Christians and Jews. so i assumed there was a portion of muslims who believed Jesus is God incarnate, just like there are very small portions of Jews who do; but of course i found out differently lol.


but yea some times i wear hijab because some guys are so annoying, aggressive and assertive ^_-. and you can be wearing long sleeve and ankle skirt and still get the most horrible things said to you; but no one bothers you if they think you're muslim. and in the african american community since there has always been a presence of muslims, if you're female no matter how you wear your scarve others will think you're muslim, so they dont bother you lol
 

blackivy393

Junior Member
Here is the difference sister, you totally disregarded the hebrew word for "one" which is "hen"..when Jesus apparently says I and God are One the same word is used just as it is used in the verse where Jesus says that disciples and i and God are One. You cannot take one verse literary and the other figuratively, you simple cannot pick and choose. If you read the context before and after Jesus referring to God and Him being one in goal or in purpose and the Jews surrounding him did not understand it as well.

both are takin literally and the meaning is what is revealed. the Jews did not support the ministry of Jesus or believe he was the messiah prophesized because 1.) he was saying the mosaic law was no longer needed 2 gurantee salvation 2.) him claiming to be the messiah did not save from the Jews from persecution at this time. 3.) Jesus was saying he was God, muslims might not believe that, but Christians do and Jews dont like him for that because he said he was God.
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Salaam,

I did not mean to come across as harsh. Forgive me. I am passionate as I have stated.
One of the most debated questions is there is no evidence in the Bible that Jesus called himself God. There is no single passage that states those words in the Gospel.
A simple correction: you stated earlier that since 70AD there has been a movement to go back to Jerusalem. The Early Christian church headed by Paul made a movement westward. That is the reason the New Testament has the Letters from the different islands. The fragile church was moving towards Rome. Some of the other converts who did not wish to move towards Rome remained in Egypt hence the Coptic Church. This was the first split. The Eastern Orthodox Church and the movement towards Rome, which became the Holy Roman Empire.
 

blackivy393

Junior Member
Dear sister,
Please don't be afraid from the mankind, just seek refugee from Allah SWT, and I'm sure he will help and protect you from the devil.
The only faire you should have is from the Day of judgement and Allah SWT (the creator of all universes). One last thing for your peace of mind that, A God will never die, so that explains all. There is no God than Allah SWT.
Peace and right path for you my sister.

to die in our reality means soul is no longer present in body and will not ceast to exist. God will never cease to exist. but when man dies his human body, will decompose, but his soul passes to the next realm. if God comes to earth as Jesus and dies his physical body dies not his soul. but in this case chrisitian tradition Jesus was resurrected meaning his soul passed to the realm ( its not hell but we'll call it hell) and than 3 days later he came back to earth claimed his body and returned to heaven whole with his body, so this prinicple is not violated
 

blackivy393

Junior Member
Salaam,

Brother I thank you for your point of view. I never want to argue. I do want an understanding that although a person has a right to a point of view it in polite for them to be honest and upfront from the get-go.
Secondly, if one is going to be a supporter of a movement..you need to have your ducks in a row. Remember the political right is in bed with the evangelical movements of the Jerry Falwell, Pat Robertson, and Oral Roberts to name a few. They are co-conspritors of zionism.
When you come on forum you must be prepared to defend your logic. You can not make blanket statements without defending them.
Too, it is critical for the sake of dialogue that they be grounded in the thelogical verbage of the movement they support. Many of the born againers have no sound philosophy to select from..they are jackrabbit preachers..many of the ministers are not graduates from certified semanries.
In addition, Blackivy bypassed all my questions. I am waiting for some answers.
Once again I urge everyone to read the ritual of Purim.
As to someone giving charity to Israel. Hello, why would I want to spend time with someone like that. I need to spend time with Sister Harb who is urging us to give money to our brothers and sisters in need in Palestine. As for my tax-dollars...please read the posts of Brother Taxhonesty and vote for Ron Paul.
Yes, we need to be polite. However, if you are in the ring with a heavyweight you better be perpared...I took lessons from the great one.



well here is the religious tradition of Purim as practiced by the Jews, not what someone who is not Jewish says Jews do.


The ritual observance of Purim begins with Ta'anit Esther (The Fast of Esther). This minor fast day is held on one of the days preceding Purim, usually 13 Adar. (If the 13th falls on a Friday or Saturday, it is held on the preceding Thursday, in honor of the Sabbath.) It actually commemorates the fasting of the Jewish warriors before their battle on 13 Adar, but it is named for Esther, who also fasted before her important task. {8}

On Purim, all Jews are required to fulfill the four Purim mitzvot:

Two readings of the Megillah (Scroll of Esther) (Mikrah Megillah)
Festive meal (Seudah Purim)
Gifts of food to friends (Mishloach Manot)
Charity to the poor (Matanot l'Evyonim)

charity must be given to at least two poor people on Purim, in an amount at least equal to the value of one inexpensive meal. Each Jew's donation need not be given to the poor directly, but it must be distributed on Purim. Most notably, Purim charity must be given without regard to the merit, desert, or even need of the recipient. On all other days, Jews are required to ensure their donations are used properly, but not on Purim


well i suggest some of you guys maybe check out your neighborhood synagouges and ask Jews what they do for various religious observations and not just watch conspiracy videos about Israel, the west and whatever else. find out from people who is certain religions what they actually do
 

blackivy393

Junior Member
Dear mirajmom. I fully appreciate your sentiments. No one here have given up on our brothers and sisters in Palestine just because we are being "nice" to blackivy (I think polite is a better word - nice is factually incorrect). Even if she was Israel PM then she would still be entitled to discuss her belief here with respect. Firstly because we -as Muslims- are ordered to use good manners and secondly because this is the purpose of this forum. The fact that she -or her community- pay "charity" to Israel would not change that. Things are rather more complicated than this. In this age where Muslims are 1500 millions spread across nearly all world countries, things are complicated. Part of the taxes that I -or you- pay perhaps go to Israel. Should we ban ourselves ?

Please note that I don't want to start an argument about this. I just want to state my POV and I fully respect yours.

Now to blackivy ...

you are confusing me ... so those born again have the "holy spirit" in them ... isn't the "holy spirit" part of the Christian trinity ? So does that not mean that they have *God* inside them ?

The fact that it is optional in the faith is irrelevant. This kind of belief is still accepted within the born again faith and it is polytheism. I don't buy your claim that born agains follow the bible. Where is the evidence from the bible that "talking in tongues" has to do with the faith ? Do they ban usury ? Do they cover their heads ? Do women talk in church ? Do they call for punishing adulterers ? ... etc. and most important of all: where is the evidence that the "holy spirit" is within them ? They apply the same pick & choose approach although they might be less picky than other groups and therefore *relatively* seen as modest and commited. Would they take the bible as a yard-stick instead of other's opinion ?

I'm not an expert in Christianity -nor Islam- for that purpose. However, I know full well that anyone who claim that God -or part of it- is inside him have left monotheism. It is nonesens & blasphemy. Inside us there some unclean organs that contain stuff ... if you see what I mean.

here are the scriptures from the bible

gift of tongues predicted by Jesus
And these signs shall follow them that believe; In my name they shall cast
out devils; they shall speak with new tongues” (Mark 16:17)


display of believers speaking in tongues
Acts 2:24
All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit, and they began to speak in other languages as the Spirit enabled them.

It is a mistake to assume that speaking in tongues is an evidence of being filled with the Spirit. All believers are commanded to “be filled with (controlled by) the Spirit” (Ephesians 5:18), but nowhere in Scripture are believers commanded to speak in tongues. A Christian can be under the influence and control of the Holy Spirit and not speak in tongues
 

blackivy393

Junior Member
well i guess a lot of people i guess think christianity is a polytheism, which is fine; even though no scholar wouldnt catergorize it as that.

as muslims since you worship the same God as us

if you believe we worship 3 God because polythesim is worship of many Gods, which 1 of the 3 do you worship

or if you just believe we worship God in 3 portions, which 1 of the 3 portions do muslim worship???

and sounds like a lot of people who were formerly christian converted without reading the whole bible first than the quran , because of while you dont agree with some of our doctrine , some of you guys seem like you never knew the bible discussed some of these doctrines.....
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Salaam,

I do not understand what you mean by watching the videos. But, I strongly suggest you read my post on Gaza today.
 

Mairo

Maryama
My dear Sister, Salmaamun alik,
I would just tell that as a Muslim we are not allowed to give references from any other sources than the Holy Qur'an and Hadith.
Also as I mentioned in my previous post, loving or respecting a non Muslim are two different things. Loving is not allowed, but you can respect them.
Jazak Allah

Wa Aleikum masalaam,

Yes, I do not ever mention any quotes but the Quran and Hadith in my posts, that is what I was trying to explain.

As I am sure you are aware, it is lawful for a Muslim man to marry a believer among the People of the Book - aka Jews or Christians. I would find it hard to believe that a man can be allowed to marry such a woman, and not show her love?

I just thought I would add another Hadith related to the topic we have been discussing here:

Volume 6, Book 60, Number 162:
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:

A man from the Jews, having been slapped on his face, came to the Prophet and said, "O Muhammad! A man from your companions from the Ansar has slapped me on my face!" The Prophet said, "Call him." When they called him, the Prophet said, "Why did you slap him?" He said, "O Allah's Apostle! While I was passing by the Jews, I heard him saying, 'By Him Who selected Moses above the human beings,' I said, 'Even above Muhammad?' I became furious and slapped him on the face." The Prophet said, "Do not give me superiority over the other prophets, for on the Day of Resurrection the people will become unconscious and I will be the first to regain consciousness. Then I will see Moses holding one of the legs of the Throne. I will not know whether he has come to his senses before me or that the shock he had received at the Mountain, (during his worldly life) was sufficient for him."
 

Mairo

Maryama
oh the only thing that holds back is the Jesus is God thing, cuz i actually believe that it makes sense to me that "whole thing" cuz i was like oh yea im going 2 convert 2 islam, since muslims state they worship the same God as Christians and Jews. so i assumed there was a portion of muslims who believed Jesus is God incarnate, just like there are very small portions of Jews who do; but of course i found out differently lol.

Hi BlackIvy,
Yes, this is true, you will not find Muslims who will put any partner with God, that is not allowed in any way, shape or form in Islam. Allah is the Creator, everything else, including Jesus, is part of his creation.

However, I am glad for your appreciation of Islam, as there are many in the world who have no respect for it whatsoever. May God guide you to what is best. Good luck to you in sorting it all out!
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Salaam,

I believe what happened in this topic is I asked for clarification about a statement that Blackivy made. She seemed unclear on the difference between zionism and the Jewish faith. She stated some born again Christians support the movement for Jews to return to the Promised Land. She stated that many give as charity. She further confused the time frame of when Christians started giving or moving to the Holy Lands(?). She was unable to provide theological evidence from any sources as to the need for this movement. I questioned her intent. Afterall, I stated Palestine does not, and Insha"Allah never be given to the Zionists. She does not seem to have an understanding about the politics of creating this unholy state: Israel.
I will not comment any more as there are serious issues that need to be addressed such as helping the people of Palestine.
No man is superior to another. That is one of the beauties of Islam.
 

Mairo

Maryama
Salaam,

I did not mean to come across as harsh. Forgive me. I am passionate as I have stated.


Assalaam Aleikum sister,
I appreciate your words and understand that emotions/passion can sometimes get the better of us in certain situations, or certain "catch words" can an immediate overreaction. I hope that love and understanding among our Muslim family will grow and we will continue to learn from each other, inspiring each other on to good words and deeds.

God bless
 

blackivy393

Junior Member
Salaam,

I believe what happened in this topic is I asked for clarification about a statement that Blackivy made. She seemed unclear on the difference between zionism and the Jewish faith. She stated some born again Christians support the movement for Jews to return to the Promised Land. She stated that many give as charity. She further confused the time frame of when Christians started giving or moving to the Holy Lands(?). She was unable to provide theological evidence from any sources as to the need for this movement. I questioned her intent. Afterall, I stated Palestine does not, and Insha"Allah never be given to the Zionists. She does not seem to have an understanding about the politics of creating this unholy state: Israel.
I will not comment any more as there are serious issues that need to be addressed such as helping the people of Palestine.
No man is superior to another. That is one of the beauties of Islam.

do you want to me to give you scriptures from the bible talking about return to Jews to the holy land, the favor God has for the Jews, the scriptures saying God blesses who gives charity to the Jews? this is people's religious beliefs not zionism.

what do you consider zionism......

and no im not going to quote what someone else thinks , i can quote directly from the bible what God says about the issue, he is the true source on the palestinian/ Jewish issue.

God has always told us to give to the Jews , why did more people start giving in a certain era.....? a variety of reasons but its always been instated by God
 

Mairo

Maryama
Salaam,

I believe what happened in this topic is I asked for clarification about a statement that Blackivy made. She seemed unclear on the difference between zionism and the Jewish faith. She stated some born again Christians support the movement for Jews to return to the Promised Land. She stated that many give as charity. She further confused the time frame of when Christians started giving or moving to the Holy Lands(?). She was unable to provide theological evidence from any sources as to the need for this movement. I questioned her intent. Afterall, I stated Palestine does not, and Insha"Allah never be given to the Zionists. She does not seem to have an understanding about the politics of creating this unholy state: Israel.
I will not comment any more as there are serious issues that need to be addressed such as helping the people of Palestine.
No man is superior to another. That is one of the beauties of Islam.

Salam Mirajmom,
I am still getting used to the forum of online message boards. It seems that it can be easy to be misunderstood.

My impression of BlackIvy is that she is a young girl who is still trying to sort out what she believes. She has stated that she would like to become Muslim, but the only thing holding her back is her believe in the divinity of Jesus. That does not come across to me as someone who is an enemy of Islam.

No man is superior to another. That is one of the beauties of Islam. - agreed
 

gazkour

Junior Member
Assalamo alikom wa rahmato Allah wa barakato

Assalamualaikum dear Gazkour,

You are exactly the person i was looking for when i started this thread...Maybe you can help me out here...

I have a very close friend who has recently accepted Jesus (pbuh) as his personal savior and lord...he says that he is able to talk in tongues and his life has changed from Evil to GOOD after he became Born Again.

How can i tell him that his personal experiences (like speaking in tongues etc...) are not from GOD? He is convinced that it is from GOD because his life changed from Evil to Good!! PLEASE ADVICE...

I think it's not a good idea to tell your friend that this manisfestations are not from God, just like that and more when he just converted.

For me, it took to really understand Islam first to say that. If you want to engage in some discussion about Islam & Christianity, I would strongly recommend the debates of brother Ahmet Deedat or the testimonies of some christian converts like Yusuf Estes and others.

It's hard to explain, but I would say that I had to go through Christianity in order to love Islam more than anything. If probably someone told me when I just became 'new-born' that all that was wrong, I would probably have told them off! Allah knows best.

I'm not saying to give up on your friend though.
I think you have to take it slowly and step by step with your friend, unless is Him who wants to discuss the topic, just then, I'll go for the recommendations I gave you. In that case you could also find all the verses from the Bible refuting things like the divinity of Jesus and the trinity. It is indeed a very long and profound topic so if you could get an 'expert' nearby would be great.

Those topics have also been discussed several times in TTI. The very last one was the thread by DadmanG.

This could also be a good opportunity for you to learn about comparative religion, so you can become also an 'expert' and talk to all your christian friends with confidence! Why not!.......EnshaAllah. I still have to learn tones! I, basically, learnt more about the Bible as a muslim than as a Christian, incredible! May Allah help us all.

In the mean time, if your friend has specific doubts and/or questions, and If I can help, I'll be more than happy to answer, eventhough I don't consider my self as a Bible 'expert'. Actually there are many brothers and sisters here that seem to have handy all the biblical and coranic verses for this topic mashaAllah!

When your friend says that 'his life has been transformed', that's actually a "hard' point to refute. When I became christian, my life changed as well, and I was very happy indeed.

At first, Christianity is presented in a "Hollywood" kind of style: you are saved, you are healed, you can become prosperous(=rich), you are a new creature,you can ask for anything you want and it is going to be given, etc, etc They always seem to take just few very well known verses which sound good or promise many things to you. But they seem to fail in exploring the other not very 'rosie' ones.

It was just after years of seeing many situations in the church that I didn't like and when I read for the first time about Islam, my life and existence made 'click' in every sense, and just then, I understood, that I was 'contented' with Christianity because there was nothing better around.

I hope I'm not disappointing you in any manner. I'll be here to help in any way I can enshaAllah.

May Allah guide us all.
 

Bluegazer

Junior Member
Assalamu Alaikum sister Mairo,


Thank you for your response. You wrote the following in post #39:

Thank you for your post. Yes I am aware of that point of view as well, and I also agree with it. A very good example of what you are explaining was with the thread from DadManG the other day. There are certain Christian beliefs, such as the idea of the trinity or belief in Jesus as God incarnate which completely contradict Islam and constitute disbelief if a person has been warned with the words of the Quran and they continue on in their disbelief. But not all Christians believe in these concepts, there are some who are simply trying to live a good life following the model of Jesus.

In addition, I have difficulty when talking about religion with my father. He believes in God, but it is not based on scripture, it is based on his own ideas and feelings about God. This is also warned against in the Quran. Regardless of whether or not someone believes the Quran to be God's revelation when it is recited, I feel an obligation to repeat from the Quran and let the recipient of the verse respond to it or reject it. Just as the messenger of Allah's purpose was only to deliver the message, he would never have power over anyone to make them convert. For them is their religion, for us is ours. The judgement is all up to God, who will decide between all of our differences. It is not for any person to condemn another. Rather we should seek to be merciful and forgive, so that we may be shown the mercy of Allah.

I do not believe it is right to withold kindness from someone who disbelieves in God's messages or attack them in any way. The prophet demonstrated constantly how to be kind and merciful with everyone around him, even prisoners of war. I do not compromise my beliefs in Islam by being tolerant with those who differ or oppose Islam. When Islam became the predominant religion in Mecca, none of its inhabitants were forced to convert, everyone had the freedom to practice the religon of their choice in peace.


In post #37, I posted the following:

I sincerely advise Munawar, Sa'diyah and Mairo to read pages 2, 3 and 4 of the thread "Communicating with kaffir family". Please read all of the 3 pages very carefully. I know my posts are very long, but if you read them carefully, you will -God willing- find the adequate response to points 2, 3 and 4 [That Allah the Almighty is the judge, who are we to judge and only He knows who will enter paradise]:

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=2
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=3
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=4


I don't mean to be rude, but if you had read my posts carefully [in the links I provided], you would have understood my point of view more clearly.

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The main points in your argument are as follows:

1- You wrote that:

There are certain Christian beliefs, such as the idea of the trinity or belief in Jesus as God incarnate which completely contradict Islam and constitute disbelief if a person has been warned with the words of the Quran and they continue on in their disbelief. But not all Christians believe in these concepts, there are some who are simply trying to live a good life following the model of Jesus.


So, it seems that you believe that if one does not have a blasphemous belief about God Almighty [such as believing He is a Trinity, believing He was grieved by the wickedness of man, was sorry for creating him and believing the He rested on the seventh and was refreshed] and tries to live a good life and follow Jesus, then that is alright.


Am I correct in summarizing your point of view?


If I was correct in summarizing your view, then I'll have to disagree with you, sister Mairo.


Let us suppose that there is a Christian who believes that God Almighty is absolutely One [not a trinity] and that only He should be worshiped. This Christian also believes in:

- the Last Day and what it entails [i.e., Heaven and Hell],
- all the previous prophets [peace be upon them all]
- believes in the Angels


.....and basically believes in every fundamental pillar of belief except that this Christian does not believe that Muhammad [peace be upon him] was the Messenger of God. Or maybe this Christian does believe that, but he did not act upon that belief and did not revert to Islam.


In this case, sister Mairo, this Christian -if he received the message of Islam in a clear and undistorted way and if he died in that state of disbelief- will enter Hell to abide therein forever.


Please read the following verses of the Qur'an:

And whoever seeks a religion other than Islâm, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 3:85]


Verily, those who disbelieve in Allâh and His Messengers and wish to make distinction between Allâh and His Messengers (by believing in Allâh and disbelieving in His Messengers) saying, "We believe in some but reject others," and wish to adopt a way in between. They are in truth disbelievers. And We have prepared for the disbelievers a humiliating torment.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 4:150-151]


O mankind! Verily, there has come to you the Messenger (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) with the truth from your Lord. So believe in him, it is better for you. But if you disbelieve, then certainly to Allâh belongs all that is in the heavens and the earth. And Allâh is Ever All-Knowing, All-Wise.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 4:170]


And whosoever does not believe in Allâh and His Messenger (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم), then verily, We have prepared for the disbelievers a blazing Fire.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 48:13]


Two of the above four citations were mentioned in my post 16 on page 2 of the thread "Communicating with kaffir family"


I also posted the following on that post #16:

The Jews, Christians and other disbelievers who'll abide in Hell forever are the ones who the message of Islam has reached in a clear and undistorted way and then died as non Muslims.


For the disbelievers who have not known about Islam in a clear and undistorted way, then they'll be tested on the Day of Judgment, and according to their performance in that test they will either enter Heaven or Hell.


This is a very important issue. Please click on the following links to read what I have posted on this matter:

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showpost.php?p=23244&postcount=21
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showpost.php?p=30021&postcount=10

Source: post # 16 found in the following link:
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=2

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2- You wrote:

In addition, I have difficulty when talking about religion with my father. He believes in God, but it is not based on scripture, it is based on his own ideas and feelings about God. This is also warned against in the Quran. Regardless of whether or not someone believes the Quran to be God's revelation when it is recited, I feel an obligation to repeat from the Quran and let the recipient of the verse respond to it or reject it. Just as the messenger of Allah's purpose was only to deliver the message, he would never have power over anyone to make them convert. For them is their religion, for us is ours. * The judgement is all up to God, who will decide between all of our differences. It is not for any person to condemn another.

Up to the red astrix sign [*] -which I have added- I agree with you. In fact, I don't remember writing anything contrary to that.


The rest of the paragraph I agree with to a certain extent. If you meant that judging a certain individual [Mr. X or Mrs. Y] is up to God Almighty and we should not say that that certain individual will enter Heaven or Hell for sure, then I agree.


However, if you meant that we cannot talk generally about a certain group, then I disagree. There's nothing wrong with saying "Anyone who does not convert to Islam -after receiving the message of Islam in a clear and undistorted way-, [whether he or she is a Jew, a Christian or any other religion] will enter Hell to abide therein forever".


Please read the following, taken from my post #18 found on page 2 of the thread "Communicating with kaffir family":

You also wrote the following:

Whom God accepts and will reward and whom He will punish is God's business and His alone. We should focus on our own faith, thoughts, words and deeds and hope and pray that we will be among those whom God accepts and rewards.


There's something that needs to be explained.


When I call Jews and Christians Kuffaar [disbelievers] -and as such all disbelievers will enter Hell forever if the message of Islam reaches them in a clear and undistorted way-, I am applying rule generally and not to a certain specific individual.


I can say, "all non Muslims who die as non Muslim after the message of Islam has reached them in a clear and undistorted way will abide in Hell forever."


That should not be considered as me interfering in any way in God Almighty's decision [and it's His decision alone] to reward whom He wills and to punish whom He wills.


I am just repeating, in my own words, what God Almighty has already revealed, whether in His own words [i.e. the Qur'an] or through the words of His Messenger [peace be upon him].


However, when I start pointing the finger at a specific person and then say "Mr. X will enter Hell" or "Mrs. Y will enter Heaven", then that is a forbidden act to do, since these things are only known to -and are at the sole discretion of- Allah the Almighty.


If Mrs. Y is a Muslim, how can I know for certain that she won't leave Islam and die as a Kaafir [disbeliever]?


If Mr. X is a Kaafir [disbeliever], how do I know that he will not die as a Muslim? And even if he died as a non Muslim, how do I know that the call to Islam has reached him in a clear and undistorted way as to make him responsible? Isn't there a chance that the call to Islam did not reach him in a clear and undistorted way? In this last case, isn't there a chance that this Mr. X might actually succeed in the test he must go through in the Day of Judgement and therefore end up in heaven?


The only time when any Muslim can say that a certain specified individual will enter Heaven or Hell is if there's a Qur'anic verse or an authentic sayings of the Prophet that states that.


For example, God Almighty said:

May the hands of Abu Lahab be ruined, and ruined is he. His wealth will not avail him or that which he gained. He will [enter to] burn in a Fire of [blazing] flame. And his wife [as well] - the carrier of firewood. Around her neck is a rope of [twisted] fiber.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 111:1-5]


So, we can say with certainty that Abu Lahab [the Prophet's [peace be upon him] uncle] and his wife will enter Hell.



As for all individuals who's fate has not been mentioned specifically in the Qur'an or in an authentic saying of the Prophet [peace be upon him] -and that includes the vast majority of cases- then we Muslims cannot and must not say that a certain specified individual will enter heaven or hell.


What we should do is just hope and pray that Allah admits a person -who has outwardly died as a Muslim- to Heaven and forgive him his sins, and to refrain from supplicating for a person who has outwardly died as a Kaafir [disbeliever].

Source: post #18 found in the following link:
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=2

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3- You wrote:

Rather we should seek to be merciful and forgive, so that we may be shown the mercy of Allah.

I do not believe it is right to withold kindness from someone who disbelieves in God's messages or attack them in any way. The prophet demonstrated constantly how to be kind and merciful with everyone around him, even prisoners of war. I do not compromise my beliefs in Islam by being tolerant with those who differ or oppose Islam. When Islam became the predominant religion in Mecca, none of its inhabitants were forced to convert, everyone had the freedom to practice the religon of their choice in peace.


Please read the following, taken from my post #18 found on page 2 of the thread "Communicating with kaffir family":

Many Muslims do not know how to differentiate between being honest and just when dealing with non Muslims [Kuffaar] and between knowing that they are Kuffaar [disbelievers]. They think that if someone is a Kaafir [disbeliever], then that automatically means I must harm him in any way possible.


That is a very big mistake.


God Almighty told us the difference in how to treat different types of Kuffaar in the following verses of the Qur'an:

Allah does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes - from being righteous toward them and acting justly toward them. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly. Allah only forbids you from those who fight you because of religion and expel you from your homes and aid in your expulsion - [forbids] that you make allies of them. And whoever makes allies of them, then it is those who are the wrongdoers.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 60:8-9]

Source: post #18 post found in the following link:

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=2


As to how prisoners of war are to be treated in Islam, I have posted evidence that shows that Muslims actually can gain good deeds for feeding the prisoner of war, if they do it for the sake of Allah.

Please read what I wrote in on the following link:

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showpost.php?p=79502&postcount=9


Among the phrases you wrote in this last paragraph was, "I do not compromise my beliefs in Islam by being tolerant with those who differ or oppose Islam."


As to being tolerant to non Muslims who do not oppose Islam, I have already stated the above Qur'anic verse which says:

Allah does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes - from being righteous toward them and acting justly toward them. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 60:8]


However, please remember the next verse also:

Allah only forbids you from those who fight you because of religion and expel you from your homes and aid in your expulsion - [forbids] that you make allies of them. And whoever makes allies of them, then it is those who are the wrongdoers.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 60:9]


You should also reflect on what Allah has said in another verse of the Qur'an:

You (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) will not find any people who believe in Allâh and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allâh and His Messenger (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم), even though they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their kindred (people). For such He has written Faith in their hearts, and strengthened them with Rûh (proofs, light and true guidance) from Himself. And He will admit them to Gardens (Paradise) under which rivers flow to dwell therein (forever). Allâh is pleased with them, and they with Him. They are the Party of Allâh. Verily, it is the Party of Allâh that will be the successful.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 58:22]


I have also posted the following in post #16 on page 2 of the thread "Communicating with kaffir family":

It is also very important to realise that just because a person is a disbeliever [Kaafir] does not mean that his life and property can be violated. The following is part of an answer given by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid to question no. 26721:

8- The Muslims believe that it is not permissible, under any circumstances whatsoever, for a Muslim to mistreat a non-Muslim who is not hostile towards Islam; so the Muslim should not commit aggression against him, or frighten him, or terrorize him, or steal his wealth, or embezzle him, or deprive him of his rights, or deny him his trust, or deny him his wages, or withhold from him the price of his goods when buying from him or withhold the profits of a partnership if he is in a business partnership with him.

9- The Muslims believe that it is obligatory upon the Muslims to honour treaties or agreements made with a non-Muslim party. If a Muslim has agreed to their conditions when seeking permission to enter their country (i.e., a visa) and has promised to adhere to that, then it is not permissible for him to commit mischief in their land, to betray anyone, to steal, to kill or to do any destructive action, and so on.

Source: http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=26721&ln=eng

Source: post #16 post found in the following link:

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12847&page=2


This is one of the most important matters that Muslims should really strive to learn and understand completely. Muslims have to learn that not loving disbelievers does not mean that their rights should be violated.


Allah the Almighty has taught us what the prophet Abraham [peace be upon him] has said:

Indeed there has been an excellent example for you in Ibrâhîm (Abraham) and those with him, when they said to their people: "Verily, we are free from you and whatever you worship besides Allâh: we have rejected you, and there has started between us and you hostility and hatred for ever until you believe in Allâh Alone" - except the saying of Ibrâhîm (Abraham) to his father: "Verily, I will ask forgiveness (from Allâh) for you, but I have no power to do anything for you before Allâh.[2]" Our Lord! In You (Alone) we put our trust, and to You (Alone) we turn in repentance, and to You (Alone) is (our) final Return.

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[2] (V.60:4) See the Qur’ân Verses (V.9:114), (V.19:41-49) and (V.26:70-86)

[The translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 60:4 and footnote [2] are from the website of the King Fahd Complex for the Printing of the Holy Qur'an]

Source: http://qurancomplex.org/Quran/Targama/Targama.asp?nSora=60&l=eng&nAya=1#60_1


At the same time, Allah has also said:

O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allâh as just witnesses; and let not the enmity and hatred of others make you avoid justice. Be just: that is nearer to piety; and fear Allâh. Verily, Allâh is Well-Acquainted with what you do.

[Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an 5:8]


Sheikh Abdur Rahmaan ibn Naasir As-Sa'di [may Allah have mercy on him] has written the following in explaining the above verse [in Arabic]:

( وَلا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ ) أي: يحملنكم بغض ( قَوْمٍ عَلَى أَلا تَعْدِلُوا ) كما يفعله من لا عدل عنده ولا قسط، بل كما تشهدون لوليكم، فاشهدوا عليه، وكما تشهدون على عدوكم فاشهدوا له، ولو كان كافرا أو مبتدعا، فإنه يجب العدل فيه، وقبول ما يأتي به من الحق، لأنه حق لا لأنه قاله، ولا يرد الحق لأجل قوله، فإن هذا ظلم للحق.

Source: http://qurancomplex.org/Quran/tafseer/Tafseer.asp?l=arb&t=saady&nSora=5&nAya=8#5_8


My translation of what he wrote is as follows. I have added the words between square brackets [ ] in order to facilitate a better translation:

(And let not) meaning: the hatred of (others make you avoid justice) just like one who has no justice and no equity does. Instead, just like you testify in favour of your friend/ally, also testify against him, and just like you testify against your enemy, also testify for him even if he was a Kaafir [disbeliever] or an innovator. Because it is obligatory to show justice to him [i.e. the Kaafir -disbeliever- or the innovator] and to accept what he brings forward of the truth, because it is true and not because he said it. And truth must not be rejected because he [i.e., the Kaafir [disbeliever] or innovator] said it, since that is an injustice against the truth.


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In post 73, you posted the following:

Yes, I do not ever mention any quotes but the Quran and Hadith in my posts, that is what I was trying to explain.

As I am sure you are aware, it is lawful for a Muslim man to marry a believer among the People of the Book - aka Jews or Christians. I would find it hard to believe that a man can be allowed to marry such a woman, and not show her love?


That's an excellent question. I hope I may be able to answer some time in the future.


Regards,

Bluegazer

Wassalamu Alaikum
 
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