Why Are You Still Single?

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talkadams

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In today's Islamic world youth are face with too many challenges, be it from our parent or materialistic approach toward life,as a Muslim marriage is very important in our life beside these challenges.WHY ARE U STILL SINGLE please
let share and pray for our self sincerely .....

jaza kallah
 

talkadams

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why am i single, simple answer.....

because every non-muslim i have been with is a waste of space, first they tell you they like you and then they dont want you, they would rather drink and throw their life away.

the last girl i was with, she said she liked me and that i was the best thing that happened to her, then she dumped me and got with some alcoholic.

most ex gfs was also horrible to their parents aswell.

yaa Wiga_Guy_84 don't you have Muslim sister in your locality to give them chance ? try Muslim sister there are nice been with, perhaps better in building strong ties with Allah (S.W.A) as for the non Muslims be calm and patient they are scared of commitment may be you need to change the manner u approached them with the issue of settling down ..

may Allah see us through ameen
 

Lookingforlight

Slave of Allah
I'm single because I'm still just 18 :D

In my country it is very rare for men to get married before they finish their education and get a job (most men get married between 24-30, most women between 20-26)
 

abubaseer

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yep :) thats wat happens in my culture too, people indulged too much in culture.

it makes me smiles thou :) cuz as soon kids finish our studies lol our parents start to get really worried about marriage like OMG we gotto marry our kids such a huge responsibility hehe :D

:salam2:


IMHO #1 reason in the subcontinent why Brothers and Sisters delay their marriage is simply because they cannot afford lavish marriage Ceremonies above and beyond their financial means.

We have imposed this burden on us.

Once I went to Walima (the feast after marriage) of a Convert Brother here. We were not more than 15 guests for the Ceremony and the food was cooked in their kitchen not by Chefs or ordered from a Hotel.
Marriage Ceremonies can be that simple and easy.

If traditional Muslims here, spend according to their means on these Ceremonies, there would far less unmarried Sister and Brothers.

:wasalam:
 

hana*

Junior Member
im single because thats what Allah has decreed, my time has yet to come inshaAllah, and also because my parents turned down lots of proposals.
 

hana*

Junior Member
excuse me but im a nice person, its the girls that need to change their ways, they need to do something about their drinking and when they go out, they go around kissing randoms, being in a relationship with the horrible men and then becoming single parents, you know stuff thats forbidden in Islam. alot of the men they go out with too have beaten them up and punched them in the face etc...

go on youtube and look up " broken britain " and watch some of them videos, you'l see what im on about.

i agree with you 100% from what ive experienced working with so many non-muslim women, they are in a long term relationship with someone but still go clubbing and doing the above with men they dont know.. then you get the women that have their eye on rich men and want to 'take all their money and then ask for a divorce' ive heard that so many times.

its sad, the typical woman here does not repsect herself and end up as single parents at 16, actually girls come for the morning after pill at 13!

inshaAllah one day Allah will send you a good muslim woman who will keep you happy and not go around with other men! in islam, people who fear Allah work hard at their marriage, try to make it work out even if its going downhill, whereas here, people vouch for divorce at the first argument.
 

IbnAhmad

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i agree with you 100% from what ive experienced working with so many non-muslim women, they are in a long term relationship with someone but still go clubbing and doing the above with men they dont know.. then you get the women that have their eye on rich men and want to 'take all their money and then ask for a divorce' ive heard that so many times.

its sad, the typical woman here does not repsect herself and end up as single parents at 16, actually girls come for the morning after pill at 13!

inshaAllah one day Allah will send you a good muslim woman who will keep you happy and not go around with other men! in islam, people who fear Allah work hard at their marriage, try to make it work out even if its going downhill, whereas here, people vouch for divorce at the first argument.

Arghhhhhhhh! Scary! May Allah SWT guide such people. Ameen.

Wassalam.
 

fatima1994

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:lol: interesting thread. Im single cuz im too young to be married and anyways have to finish my studies first :D hehe! :lol:

walikumsalam.
 

rightpath_357

Junior Member
Becuz I'm still to young :lol:
and bsides- I'm not interested yet-lol
I think I'll spend the next years still being a kid!:lol:
Cuz u can only have childhood once!:D
Love to everybody!!!!:hearts:
 

Al-Kashmiri

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As-salaamu `alaykum

Too young to marry? You sure? I got married a couple months after turning 20. What's with the delays? People found it strange when I got married, but within no time, friends of mine got married too, at the same age. And it wasn't long after that I met other brothers who got married 17, 18 etc. Alhamdulillaah, it seems yet another sunnah is reviving... in the West!

Was-salaam
 

abuzakariya

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Salam Alaikum, interesting thread. I personally am not married because I have not found the right woman for myself. Allah Almighty knows best when it's time to. Also I am in the middle, my older brother is not married yet (27) and my younger brother is 19 (soon) so I am waiting for my older bro to break the chain lol. I don't really want to be the first one to take that step anyway because my parents might think that there is something going wrong between me and a woman I am marrying(i.e. got pregnant or something). Girls I have made friends with are mostly eastern European with cigarettes in their mouths and bottles in their hands. Complete waste of the time. Also as a convert to Islam I haven't met Muslimahs yet but everything will work out just right. For now I am waiting patiently for my turn. :SMILY346:
 

arzafar

Junior Member
im still a student and i want to study more. so no job yet. elder sisters too.
so somebody'll have to wait because her cowboy will be late.

its interesting that i never really cared about marriage but over the past couple months it's been different. i guess a muslim man has no 'fun activities' like music partying etc. he has his wife and family instead. off course that is in fact a good thing for the married brothers but also a struggle for all the singles.
 

Mahzala

فَتَبَارَكَ اللَّهُ أَحْسَنُ الْخَالِقِينَ
im still a student and i want to study more. so no job yet. elder sisters too.
so somebody'll have to wait because her cowboy will be late.

its interesting that i never really cared about marriage but over the past couple months it's been different. i guess a muslim man has no 'fun activities' like music partying etc. he has his wife and family instead. off course that is in fact a good thing for the married brothers but also a struggle for all the singles.

Cowboy?

I always thought it was meant to be Prince Charming in shining armour on a white horse. :rolleyes:
 

slaveofAllah88

Slave of Allah (swt)
:salam2:


IMHO #1 reason in the subcontinent why Brothers and Sisters delay their marriage is simply because they cannot afford lavish marriage Ceremonies above and beyond their financial means.

We have imposed this burden on us.

Once I went to Walima (the feast after marriage) of a Convert Brother here. We were not more than 15 guests for the Ceremony and the food was cooked in their kitchen not by Chefs or ordered from a Hotel.
Marriage Ceremonies can be that simple and easy.

If traditional Muslims here, spend according to their means on these Ceremonies, there would far less unmarried Sister and Brothers.

:wasalam:

:salam2:

SubhanAllah thats so true people want to make their ceremonies like a huge parties with so much money wasted.

But brother its so much to do with society too, if the person wants a simple wedding the parents wont agree cuz they gotto live up to their reputation in the society so people can say wow what a wonderful wedding.
 

BinKhadija

An Akhu
Because I haven't completed my university education yet. Unless I do that, I am supposed to be not ready for marriage. (Subhan Allah.)

Yes, it's not right, and hence I will better understand my children, Insha'Allah.

Wa'salaam
 

Miss Aaliyah

Junior Member
Salam,
Firstly we shouldn't just date and be intime and try to "find" the one we like the most. That's not the islamic way.
Personally I am not married because I don't find it fitting right now most because of private reasons and then because I don't find a way to combinate studying at university with marriage. Still I don't know why I even study at university when my biggest dream is to be a homewife and get many kids. I am so weird. So I guess right now I am just waiting for my time to come and learning more about Islam and increasing my iman meanwhile.
 

hana*

Junior Member
Salam,
Firstly we shouldn't just date and be intime and try to "find" the one we like the most. That's not the islamic way.
Personally I am not married because I don't find it fitting right now most because of private reasons and then because I don't find a way to combinate studying at university with marriage. Still I don't know why I even study at university when my biggest dream is to be a homewife and get many kids. I am so weird. So I guess right now I am just waiting for my time to come and learning more about Islam and increasing my iman meanwhile.

no you are not weird, that is a great dream, if only more women were like that

and yes you are right about dating - marriage isnt like shopping for a bargin, where we ditch what we dont like. the islamic way makes so much sense alhamdulilah
 
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