Why Are You Still Single?

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  1. palestine
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    Lol. walaikum wasalam. i'm laughing cause i was just talking to someone who was asking me related things to marriage. lol. subhanAllah.
    anyhow, my reasons are as follows:
    1- i don't find any of the men whom i meet suitable for me( deen wise)
    2- i'm not in the mood for any relationships, somehow i find them to be troublesome and people go overboard with it.
    3- i'm just not interested in any guy whatsoever and most of the ones whom are interested in me have basically been stalking me for years or months. I find that disgusting and i'm talking about the ones who are known to be "religious", honestly. i just received an email two days ago from someone whom i knew was interested in me, they were afraid to tell me face to face so he sent these love poems and sweet talks to my email inbox. he hasn't figured it out yet that i know who he is. the poems, although written well were to me a stupid idea b/c he doesn't even know, so how dare he send me love poems and describe me in his poems. So i abruptly said no, and i did it politely because i really don't like to be rude but in the end they asked for it. He knows about my entire life - and basically freaked me out, and to this moment i'm not even sure if the guy i'm talking about is the right one, cause he refused to disclose his name and expected me to "accept" him because he believes im "non-judgemental", i may not be but i'm sure as heck not gonna start a relationship with someone whom doesn't even know me. sorry for the long talk. lol, i had to say something.
    4- in conclusion, i STRONGLY believe that a person will not surpass the decree( Qadr) of Allah, so no matter how much people advise me to marry from a close relative or tribe or culture, i pay no attention to that - what Allah swt decrees and plans will take place. so i trust in Him to plan the best for me. and i know He will. He does no injustice, even the size of an atom to his servants.
    5- to answer your Question, Yes! i'm still Single! and Alhamdulillah!:)
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    nice people ( male or female ) are usually treated poorly
    be careful who you trust

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    ditto and as a lot of people have said it's Allah's will I'll get married when the time is right inshallah.
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    Aww who treats you like this?? Thats just very wrong.

    And yea, its because your too nice for them. So don't feel bad okayy ;)

    May God protect you alwayss
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    im not really sure actually
    why i am still single :lol:
    actually i think i dont mind marrying at this age -20
    and yes
    i always think just like the sister-most of the time i guess
    esp during my studies
    cos i know someday if Allah's will that i'll get married inshaAllah
    i want to be a housewife and take care of my own children too
    take care of the house

    and about being too nice to people
    mashaAllah
    i know sometimes we get hurts
    but i heard in a lecture once
    that it shows a great faith in ur heart - of being nice or even too nice to people
    anyways keep it up that way brothers and sisters
    Allah is The Most Kindest to His Creation
    so dont feel sad about the inappropriate treatment u had
    :SMILY259:
    have a nice day to all those who are stil single :lol:
    jazakallahu khairan kathiran
    waalaikummussalam wbt
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    allah rakkah lav i love allah alone

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    who said im single Allah is with me in All cases


    ok ok i will tell why im single
    im still a student more over i dont belive in marriage and guys
    so i wish to be single always
    if my mom pressure me to marry also i cant find a right guy for me who love Allah and his followers :SMILY23:


    so its all in Allah's will if he wishes he will send me a right guy
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    He is coming my dear sister Insha Allah. :hearts:
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    allah rakkah lav i love allah alone

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    i agree with this when you are truthful to your friends they never show the trust back on you not only friends people around never understand the truth they just fall on the polished speech and ACTING people


    but if you are true to our Allah he look at us back from everywhere he look at us
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    allah rakkah lav i love allah alone

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    i didnt found any right person selected by Allah
    i hope its in process by Allah after he found me a good and perfect match he will send the PRINCE for this PRINCESS kutty :lol:
    :hearts: :shymuslima1:
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    I second what u said sweet lil sis:D:D altough im not really 11:shymuslima1: :lol:
    i think i've passed da childish age ;) :D bt love hanging out wid lil kids and acting like one :D hehe :lol:
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    its okay dont worry, i understand where you are coming from, think i took it personally ;)
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    salam alaykum,,, hmmm im engaged and about to get married soooon inshAllah,, plz make duah:blackhijab:
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    Me too, and I must be more smart and rich when I get married.
    Now I'm 17.I want to be smart but I want my wife to be
    smarter than me.I ask ALL-LLAH to give me a good wife
    devoted muslima honest,smart about islam.
    ,beautiful and labor affairs pertaining.
    I'll give her all rights which islam gives a woman.
    May ALL-LLAH swt forgives and help us.
    Wes-selamu alejkum
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    you dont believe in marriage? well thats opposing Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) and his practice, and also getting married 'completes half of ones faith'
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    i so understand what you are saying, the general rule of thumb is that if you are nice, too nice actually, many will walk all over you or take advantage of you, but that shouldnt stop us from being nice, we do it for Allah's sake, and not for the people.

    the nicest of all people was the Prophet (peace be upon him), yet he endured so much by his own people- he was constantly mentally and physically degraded, stoned, strangled, boycotted, harassed constantly etc by his own people. he never once shouted or hit anyone or swore, he used the most eloquent of words, was the most gentle and humble in nature, even his enemies spoke highly of him.

    peace and blessings be upon you oh rasullAllah :hearts:
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    Such a nice thread. Never thought of how old members were or at least age range till I came here. Helps Noe members a lil bit more. Rightpath is 11? Wow youngest member by far. Mashallah sis, young and devoted to Islam. May Allah bless you!
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    yeah thats true, its also 'nice to be nice'
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    LOL sis! Isnt it fun or wat????lol:lol:

    I hope everyone is doing well- married or single.



    BTW- for wigan_guy , lot's of people look down on Muslims, like we're TERRORISTS- AstagfirAllah. Don't mind them- They frown upon us- but ALLAH frowns upon them, right? It's stupid though- Osama bin Laden this and that- I don't know why they don't realize that if he ACTUALLY did all the bad things that they said he did, then he is NOT A TRUE MUSLIM!And ISLAM did not TEACH to do this kind of stuff. Like I've heard a million times- this is very true- ISLAM as a religon is PERFECT. But not all of the FOLLOWERS are.

    Anyways- Salam to everybody:hearts::shake:
    :tti_sister:
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    Lol sis- thnx. Lot's of love to u 2!:hearts: And Blessings and Mercy.

    Yes it's me, the kind, generous, beautiful, gracious, wise one!!!
    Not to mention MODEST!!!!! :lol:

    :lol:- don't worry- I don't exactley think of myself as thatlol.

    May Allah unravel His Bounties, Mercy, Blessings and Wisdom upon u sis!!!:hearts:

    That goes for everybody:shake:.
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