Alpha women need Beta Husbands

[Ibn Uthaymin]

Meaning two things:

- that in the meat market that it has become out there, if you want the best chance of a long happy marriage, you need to turn yourself into an Alpha female - the very best and highest quality you can become - both from a... Deen and an intellectual point of view. Being a bit of a looker might help as well.

- that in general, the male race has gone to pot. Marriages are suffering because men have forgotten what is means to be a man again, men aren't pitching in at home, with the kids, with whatever. They've become a disaster and no I don't need anyone to tell me how wonderful THEIR husbands are, you can tell THEM that instead. So as you put yourself on the market as Alpha quality, try to find someone who's "beta" so that if they start to regress later, you'll still be on a par.

(Taken from, "AE: Excerpts of Being an Alpha+ Male", p.34)


Abu Eesa is awesome.

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Out of context and insulting to your mother.

 

[faaraa]

I WONDER WHAT IS GOING WRONG ...................(i AGREE WITH AUNT AAPA)

FEE AMANILLAH

 

[fatima1994]

Meaning two things:

- that in the meat market that it has become out there, if you want the best chance of a long happy marriage, you need to turn yourself into an Alpha female - the very best and highest quality you can become - both from a... Deen and an intellectual point of view. Being a bit of a looker might help as well.

- that in general, the male race has gone to pot. Marriages are suffering because men have forgotten what is means to be a man again, men aren't pitching in at home, with the kids, with whatever. They've become a disaster and no I don't need anyone to tell me how wonderful THEIR husbands are, you can tell THEM that instead. So as you put yourself on the market as Alpha quality, try to find someone who's "beta" so that if they start to regress later, you'll still be on a par.

(Taken from, "AE: Excerpts of Being an Alpha+ Male", p.34)


Abu Eesa is awesome.

umm i didnt get it at all???

 

[dna1987]

Assalam alaikum.

Err...but I thought it was better to be an "Alpha male". Don't they take charge, possess good leadership skills, are confident (and the list goes on..), and aren't they the ones that women like in the first place?

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Oh to be so old as I.

An alpha female is like her counterpart an alpha male. She is the matriarch of the family. She is the one the sons come to for advise. She is the one the alpha male comes to for comfort. Like for like.

A beta male for a beta female. Like for like. He does not need to be in charge. Nor does she.

It is written in the Quran..like for like.

 

[Idris16]

It is written in the Quran..like for like.

Which Sûrah and Âyah I'm not questioning you and I don't understand this thread. But I looked for the meaning of alpha.

Who is Abu Eesa?

 

[Kakorot]

Which Sûrah and Âyah I'm not questioning you and I don't understand this thread. But I looked for the meaning of alpha.

I don't understand this thread but maybe Aapa was referring to this verse (??): Verily, the Muslims (those who submit to Allah in Islam) men and women, the believers men and women (who believe in Islamic Monotheism), the men and the women who are obedient (to Allah), the men and women who are truthful (in their speech and deeds), the men and the women who are patient (in performing all the duties which Allah has ordered and in abstaining from all that Allah has forbidden), the men and the women who are humble (before their Lord Allah), the men and the women who give Sadaqat (i.e. Zakat, and alms, etc.), the men and the women who observe Saum (fast) (the obligatory fasting during the month of Ramadan, and the optional Nawafil fasting), the men and the women who guard their chastity (from illegal sexual acts) and the men and the women who remember Allah much with their hearts and tongues (while sitting, standing, lying, etc. for more than 300 times extra over the remembrance of Allah during the five compulsory congregational prayers) or praying extra additional Nawafil prayers of night in the last part of night, etc.) Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward (i.e. Paradise). 33:35

Or maybe not........??

 

[Abdul25]

i guess my English is very bad :lol: i didn't get even a single word
from Alpha and Beta , i remembered Physics :lol:

 

[dna1987]

Assalam alaikum.

Ok, I see there is some confusion as to what brother Ibn Uthaymin has posted, so I'll try and simplify it. Here goes:

Alpha = Leader and/or Smart
Beta = Follower and/or Dumb

1. Smart man + Smart woman = romantic marriage
2. Smart man + dumb woman = unwanted pregnancy
3. Dumb man + dumb woman = most marriages
4. Dumb man + smart woman = ideal marriage for the woman (this is what Ibn Uthaymin has posted)

What he posted is suggesting that Alpha/Smart women marry Beta men.

My first post stated that Alpha males are mole popular with females though. They will either end up options 1. or 2. depending on what type of female it is lol.

Assalam alaikum.

 

[Abdul25]

1. Smart man + Smart woman = romantic marriage
2. Smart man + dumb woman = unwanted pregnancy
3. Dumb man + dumb woman = most marriages
4. Dumb man + smart woman = ideal marriage for the woman (this is what Ibn Uthaymin has posted)

man i cant stop laughing :lol: this is hilarious. now i agree with bro Ibn Uthaymin . he is right

 

[ShahnazZ]

I understand what he's saying. Personally, I feel that in order for balance to be achieved between the couple, they need to have certain qualities that contradict one another. Two people being "hot" at the same time isn't going to extinguish the problem; one of them needs to be "cold" so that he or she can deal with the partner that is emotionally hot.

I have experienced this personally and I see truth in the statement of Alphas for Betas and Betas for Alphas. It also validates the statement of "opposites attract." It helps to avoid alot of unnecessary conflict when one person and I for one, do not like spending my time butting heads with an individual CONSTANTLY.

And yes, Abu Eesa is indeed awesome.

 

[justoneofmillion]

:salam2:What i fail to understand is this psychological or let s say spoiled approach towards men and women relations.It is simple be human.Learn to love yourself and know your strength and weaknesses.Serve god and respect his boundaries.The rest is random theorizations .Just be yourselves folks.Be natural,spontaneous and creative.The guidance of Allah swt is better than any book out there about these matters .It makes of us righteous and balanced individuals. Do not try too hard to be a man or woman through the accepted trends of societies or what any Tom Dick or Harry writes,you are one. Do not imitate others in how they say you should be .Listen to Allah swt.Love ,live ,forgive , let live and learn to give instead of always being demanding,in the end Allah swt is the provider. Be sure that no one can love your Woman or Man they way you do,because you are sincere and generous in your singularity .Learn to feel instead of thinking to much.This is a gift and a reaching hand towards the one.The guidance of Allah swt while giving instructions doesn t fail to highlight the individuality of each one of us and it is exactly through this that comfort and compassion merge,to give us a happy and guided marital life down here and the reward for it in the hereafter.The prophet salla llahu aleihi wassalaam is the best example.The rest is bubbles,Man and Woman did not change in their essence since the stone age.Even Tom and Gerry loved each other better than these books and magazines describe.Wallahu aalam.

 

[Abu Talib]

Assalam alaikum.

Ok, I see there is some confusion as to what brother Ibn Uthaymin has posted, so I'll try and simplify it. Here goes:

Alpha = Leader and/or Smart
Beta = Follower and/or Dumb

1. Smart man + Smart woman = romantic marriage
2. Smart man + dumb woman = unwanted pregnancy
3. Dumb man + dumb woman = most marriages
4. Dumb man + smart woman = ideal marriage for the woman (this is what Ibn Uthaymin has posted)

What he posted is suggesting that Alpha/Smart women marry Beta men.

My first post stated that Alpha males are mole popular with females though. They will either end up options 1. or 2. depending on what type of female it is lol.

Assalam alaikum.

:salam2:

Lol this was really hilarious. Thanks it made me understand what the OP was.

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum

Yes, I was making reference to the Quranic verse.

This is from social/organizational psychology. And there has been a lot of research done with primates. Yep..apes and things. Chimps wanting bananas. I was a psych professor until I could not stop laughing and threw the textbooks away.

Humility, patience, perseverance, and gratitude to Allah are the ingredients for a successful marriage.

 

[saifkhan]

i guess my English is very bad :lol: i didn't get even a single word
from Alpha and Beta , i remembered Physics :lol:

salam alaikum

ha ha

how can you refer such thing from physics, when it is the property of mathematics and Greek language(as far i remember)!!!

anyways, same here, actually I didn't get the thread why it is here and what is the dealing??

geee, and don't want to understand, I liked ur reply bro

JazakAllah khair
wassalam

 

[Abdul25]

salam alaikum

ha ha

how can you refer such thing from physics, when it is the property of mathematics and Greek language(as far i remember)!!!

Walikum Salam . brother, remember Alpha, Beta and gamma rays in Physics :lol:
the rays from radioactive material , gamma being the most dangerous :lol:

i hope you now remember

 

[IHearIslam]

Assalaamu alaykum,

hmm some what vague post....its confusing when first read maybe because it is not the whole article. I understand what its trying to convey though.....I mean if you look at it opposites do attract. An Alpha woman would most likely be attracted to a Beta man and vise versa. Humans love opposites....I mean a very talkative sister might not be so attracted to a brother who is the same as her, because the truth is none of them would just quite down!! So, if I look at it like this, I agree with this thread.......

thanks for posting this!!

 

[saifkhan]

Walikum Salam . brother, remember Alpha, Beta and gamma rays in Physics :lol:
the rays from radioactive material , gamma being the most dangerous :lol:

i hope you now remember

salam alaikum

I know brother, I'm a student of physics anyways,lolz
and half of my student life I've studied about this
not only rays, it is even in lattice or solid state physics....lolz
it is even in bioceramics...aggh....chemistry related higher studies
but it is a property of mathematics first, thats what i mean
anyways

alpha, beta was in everywhere in science, now it is in the human life...
aghhhh....so versatile variable, i think it has defeated 'x' in the case of use as a variable....wa-llaahi


JazakAllah khair
wassalam

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Alpha prototype has nothing to do with introversion or extroversion. There are two brothers here who are the alpha's. One has responded and the other has not.
It is more intricate. Leadership is not vocal by definition. An alpha male seeks an alpha female to balance him. The ying/yang. Balance and harmony.

And we also have silly boys...they have showed themselves in their responses.