Assalaam walaikum,
Sister...women have always found a way to make themselves attractive for men throughout the ages. There has been make up forever.
I will leave the scholars to the rules of makeup.
Common sense: it clogs up your pores, it is so messy it stains your clothes and hijabs, it is expensive, there are so many chemicals, it is often perfumed with alchol based fats...husbands and children do not liked to be kissed when a woman wears make-up...they will wipe away your kisses in a second..natural beauty is so much prettier.
Professional women wear very little to no-make up. Intelligent women do not need to have people concentrate on their faces...concentrate on my mind.
excatly the scholars will say what you did but they will back it up with referances.recently my sister asked me about beautification and all and i did a lil research.all the hadith which forbade women to do stuff (like raised hair bun like camels, long nails,plucking eye brow,perfume,thin clothes)were the kind of things that will attract ppl's attention to her.so makeup sure does.and to add all that you said to it*thumbs up*then it's really not worth considering
@red what is natural and what ALLAH made is all that we need ppl to concerntrate on coz that will show their real honest opinion about us....umm that's what i think
*hug* Don't feel discouraged.
I think real Islam offers women the best kind of freedom and equality. Unfortunately, that is not reality today. Sometimes I think women were better off and less oppressed when Muhammad (pbuh) was still alive and sometimes I wish I could experience that for one day, just to see how wonderful it would have been. Instead, women are oppressed by Muslims and non-Muslims alike. I'm not sure if that will ever change. Muslims now are nothing compared to Muhammad and his companions. I guess I'll just have to keep dreaming...
For now, I think it is best to focus on what YOU believe in and to pray.
dear sister i'm really sorry to know that you should hold such opinion.if it is because of the kind of men that surround you then SHAME ON THEM!!
yes we are given the best kind of equality and freedom.i'm so very happy to kno someone spoke my heart in this matter.it is islam that has made our life so easy for us.the real obligation is only to deal with her family and that too in a way in which she's the Queen
(i'm the princess btw
,mum's the Queen)complete and equal help and support form her king is expected coz they prophet
set the example.we like the men are not to worry about outside affairs though we have the choice
!!they don't have the choice of sitting at home.....
but sister i just want to say not all men are the same.A horrible mask is painted over their true face.If my father rather take me for ice cream himself then go alone with my friends,it's not because he's doesn't want me to enjoy but he's worried.if i consider this as an opression or his lack or trust in me(which is NOT the case alhumdulillah)then his I just drained his love and care,not to mention his hardwork of shielding me....all gone and what's left between me and him:misunderstading ansd problems!!
i've seen that every man rules small KINGDOM of his own with his family being his ppl.if we only follow some of his rulzz(which may appear oppresive)then we get him to follow all of ours everntually
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may ALLAH make your life real beautiful and your dreams to come true*hugs*
Assalaam walaikum,
In my peregrinations today I discovered it is not oppression. ( Can't believe I am writing this but it is the truth ). Muslim men, and it is the history of Islam, are very protective of women. They shield women from unnecessary burdens. Islam is firm in its stance on family. The role of wife/mother is more important in the functioning of the family, as it is the backbone of society, than a woman seeking employment. That is secondary. Thus, it is not that Islam oppresses women, it is the role of women is cleary defined. What many of us have been raised to view as oppression is not so. There is no oppression in being at home. It is the preferred position. In some sense they must view women like me crazy.
Thus, in the tradition of Islam one protective measure is to prevent women from being exposed to haram. The veil is one obvious measure. Although, women can serve in the courts, they bring upon themselves experiences which may hurt them. Islam reveres the gentle nature of women. It is simply another way of protecting the flowers of Islam.
Now, you, my dear brothers and sisters know I did a lot of reading today.
stupid stupid me i should've have known you proivded the best answer to sister kayliegh already
sister you put it beautifull
mashallah i agree it's their shielding acts(for duniya and akhira)that some present as oppresion.
since it's not an Obligation on women to work and bring home the money OR to provide these kind of services to the society(although very useful and valuable),it may disturb what is the obligation on her and it may create a problem (here and hereafter)so i guess you said the very right thing
it's not oppression it's protection
Alhumdulillah.
:salam2:
Ok. I haven't finished reading the whole thread but "Men & women were NOT CREATED TO BE EQUAL!!!"...they are CREATED TO COMPLIMENT ONE ANOTHER.
We were never create to compete with each other. ONLY the west has brainwashed us to be so.
I am a Muslimah and proud to say that I am not an equal to my male counter part but I have strength that man have the weaknesses.
got to agree with you there sister
they don't have the secret powers ALLAH gave us
!!(shhh!!don't let the brothers kno)may get jealous
.......kidding akhis!!we are equal but different..