Raed
Muslim Student
Al slam alikum brothers and sisters...
Regarding my thread (how should I act?) http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=9223
Ok the sister accepted me and i told my family and she told her family..
Now the problem that put me into insomia:
Her mother searched about me and found me to be good guy high educated good salary and from good family and good position, however, she also thinks thats im from unknown family (not famous in UAE or rich)... and the mother dosent wana feel ashame infron of her (well known famous family) so she wanted me to do the wedding party in five stars one of the most expensive hotel and the (mahr) is already high.. well im from middle class and im only two years employee and self dependent ( i dont take money from my family)
The total price to get married from the sister i want is about 70,000 US $ thats the minumum and i dont have this amount , but i can take loan and stuff... on the other hand my family knew and they said if its not less than 20,000 US $ we wont accept and we wont let you spend that much, and we wont agree...
Now im stuck , the sister i wanted to marry she dosent agree with her mother, but she cant help it because its her mother desicion at the end...
What shall i do....? should i obey my family and leave the girl (I already in love with her) ... or pay the amount that her family wants for the sake to get married?
By the way , i already posted before that UAE girls are so materialistic, but the sister is not, she is really good person, but her family are.
I need your dua brothers and sisters to make things easy on me..
I really cant stop thinking abt this issue... I see the sister everyday in the office, I dont wana lose her... may allah helps me may allah helps me
Regarding my thread (how should I act?) http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=9223
Ok the sister accepted me and i told my family and she told her family..
Now the problem that put me into insomia:
Her mother searched about me and found me to be good guy high educated good salary and from good family and good position, however, she also thinks thats im from unknown family (not famous in UAE or rich)... and the mother dosent wana feel ashame infron of her (well known famous family) so she wanted me to do the wedding party in five stars one of the most expensive hotel and the (mahr) is already high.. well im from middle class and im only two years employee and self dependent ( i dont take money from my family)
The total price to get married from the sister i want is about 70,000 US $ thats the minumum and i dont have this amount , but i can take loan and stuff... on the other hand my family knew and they said if its not less than 20,000 US $ we wont accept and we wont let you spend that much, and we wont agree...
Now im stuck , the sister i wanted to marry she dosent agree with her mother, but she cant help it because its her mother desicion at the end...
What shall i do....? should i obey my family and leave the girl (I already in love with her) ... or pay the amount that her family wants for the sake to get married?
By the way , i already posted before that UAE girls are so materialistic, but the sister is not, she is really good person, but her family are.
I need your dua brothers and sisters to make things easy on me..
I really cant stop thinking abt this issue... I see the sister everyday in the office, I dont wana lose her... may allah helps me may allah helps me