kayleigh
Junior Member
If a man is genuinely taking care of the home and children while the woman works, that isn't lazy and in that case he is pulling his weight. Unfortunately I still think that's rare. Some guys do stop working and let their wives or girlfriends support them and don't even bother to cook or clean or make their significant other's life any easier. That's not what I'm talking about, though.
There's a lot of middle aged men and women who are going to the same college I go to in order to retrain because they've been laid off and can't find work. Most of them have children, and some of them I've spoken to really can't find a full time job. Their best hope is a $9/hour 30 hour a week gig and that's if they're lucky. I'm sorry, but you absolutely cannot support a family on that. That's what I make and I can barely afford to put myself through college and pay my own bills. I can't imagine trying to support another human being on that kind of wage.
I'm curious if anyone thinks men would be a worse parent to raise a child than a woman, and why?
and on the topic of a man being the leader and a woman being the follower...I kind of agree with azrafar in a way.
In every relationship I've ever been in or witnessed, whether it be a friendship or something more there is always one person who is more dominant than the other. That doesn't mean that dominant person puts their foot down and the other submissive person has to just go along with it all the time. That would be a pretty dysfunctional relationship, in my opinion. But respect and compromise are necessary as well.
I've never been married, so I'm probably wrong. My parents have been happily married for almost 40 years. My mom "wears the pants" in the family. She makes most of the decisions and the planning. She is the dominant one in most cases. It works for them because of their personalities and strengths. They both balance each other. So I don't think men always have to be dominant and women always have to be submissive because everyone has a different personality and if you tried to make every person and relationship fit one single mold, a lot of those relationships would fall apart.
Honestly... most Muslims marriages I've seen have the guy acting all dominant in public, when in reality, the woman calls the shots completely when they're out of the public eye. It's kind of funny to see lol. Maybe the key to a successful marriage is learning how to make a man think that he is always in control, even though he usually isn't Kidding, kidding...
There's a lot of middle aged men and women who are going to the same college I go to in order to retrain because they've been laid off and can't find work. Most of them have children, and some of them I've spoken to really can't find a full time job. Their best hope is a $9/hour 30 hour a week gig and that's if they're lucky. I'm sorry, but you absolutely cannot support a family on that. That's what I make and I can barely afford to put myself through college and pay my own bills. I can't imagine trying to support another human being on that kind of wage.
I'm curious if anyone thinks men would be a worse parent to raise a child than a woman, and why?
and on the topic of a man being the leader and a woman being the follower...I kind of agree with azrafar in a way.
In every relationship I've ever been in or witnessed, whether it be a friendship or something more there is always one person who is more dominant than the other. That doesn't mean that dominant person puts their foot down and the other submissive person has to just go along with it all the time. That would be a pretty dysfunctional relationship, in my opinion. But respect and compromise are necessary as well.
I've never been married, so I'm probably wrong. My parents have been happily married for almost 40 years. My mom "wears the pants" in the family. She makes most of the decisions and the planning. She is the dominant one in most cases. It works for them because of their personalities and strengths. They both balance each other. So I don't think men always have to be dominant and women always have to be submissive because everyone has a different personality and if you tried to make every person and relationship fit one single mold, a lot of those relationships would fall apart.
Honestly... most Muslims marriages I've seen have the guy acting all dominant in public, when in reality, the woman calls the shots completely when they're out of the public eye. It's kind of funny to see lol. Maybe the key to a successful marriage is learning how to make a man think that he is always in control, even though he usually isn't Kidding, kidding...