Almost ready to take Shahada

[lozlg]

Hi my name is Lauren and i am non muslim. I feel ready to take my shahada but i have one thing thats holding me back. I suffer with social anxiety and have a low self esteem. I have got some counselling sessions starting next week which will hopefully help me, insha'Allah. I met a muslim sister during the week for a chat and she said that i was welcome to go mosque with her yesterday but i could'nt face it. Just the thought of lots of people there, feeling like everyone is looking at me and not knowing how to pray etc, i would be a nervous wreck. I was going to take my shahada after all my counselling is over so i can totally concentrate on learning about Islam without the worry and anxiety but part of me thinks i shouldn't wait as my life could end tomorrow for all i know. Maybe i should face my fear. What shall i do?

I also have a couple of questions:
Can i use the islamic greeting Assalam Alaikom to greet muslims even though i am a non muslim?

Is it ok for me to say islamic sayings such as Alhamdullah, insha'Allah etc when im talking to muslim people?

Thank you

 

[IHearIslam]

Hi my name is Lauren and i am non muslim. I feel ready to take my shahada but i have one thing thats holding me back. I suffer with social anxiety and have a low self esteem. I have got some counselling sessions starting next week which will hopefully help me, insha'Allah. I met a muslim sister during the week for a chat and she said that i was welcome to go mosque with her yesterday but i could'nt face it. Just the thought of lots of people there, feeling like everyone is looking at me and not knowing how to pray etc, i would be a nervous wreck. I was going to take my shahada after all my counselling is over so i can totally concentrate on learning about Islam without the worry and anxiety but part of me thinks i shouldn't wait as my life could end tomorrow for all i know. Maybe i should face my fear. What shall i do?

I also have a couple of questions:
Can i use the islamic greeting Assalam Alaikom to greet muslims even though i am a non muslim?

Is it ok for me to say islamic sayings such as Alhamdullah, insha'Allah etc when im talking to muslim people?

Thank you

Assalamu Alaikum dear
Soo happy to hear you are about to take the Shahada
YES, like you said your life could end tomorrow, so PLEASE take your Shahada as sooon as possible, then learn ISLAM step by STEP, inshaAllah you'll find peace in your heart
concerning your Questions, YES you can say Assalamu Alaikum and all the ISLAMIC sayings
SubhanaAllah, I already consider you a MUSLIM! Allahu Akbar!
InshaAllah, we'll soon read your SHAHADA story, cannot wait!
Allah hafiz now and always
May you enjoy your stay here and may your journey be one that is full of happiness.ameen,ameen,ameen

 

[mhamzah]

:salam2:

First of all welcome to the forum. hope you enjoy your stay here.

You dont have to take shahadah in front of lot's of people. Take shahadah with a friend and continue counselling so that you are fully confident in being open about islam and being part of the muslim community.

Yes you can say Salam alakyum and Alhamdulilah.

 

[Zaynab123]

Asalamu alaykum


to ISLAM & TTI!

Don't feel bad or scared,hopefully it will go well and as you said don't wait long enough because you don't know when you 'll die or what will happen to you. you have to believ in yourself and let the fear fly away. We do trust in you. And about your qustions i agree with Sis "Amtullah4lyf". You do have in mind that you want to become muslim. Good luck and have great newness in Islam. Do enjoy it!:

 

[Azizati]

salamu alaykum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

welcome Lauren to TTI
masha'a' Allah you talk about saying islamic words, you know also that in any time your life could end.
Allah wants good for you so he makes you think about islam so, take your Shahada as far as you possible, don't think about people but only that you want do something for Allah.
we are all waiting to hear from you soon.
we need you in our community
Allah with you
good luck

 

[Farshi_turaab]

Masha'Allah, such a great news!!! May Allah grant u to accept Islam as soon as possible bcz u don't know what u r missing Insha'Allah I can't wait to read the thread abt u finally accepted it and said shahadah

My dear, feal free to ask anything, n don't be shy, we all had to begin from somewhere If u like, insha'Allah I would like to be ur new Muslim friend so just PM me ur e-mail address insha'Allah n we'll be in touch. I would like to help u as much I can.

U asked abt salam, sure u can say salam to Muslims or to say yarhamukAllah (May Allah have mercy on you) when a Muslim sneeze, but bcz u r still not Muslim, don't be surprised if they answer on ur salam with "Wa alaikum", bcz our Prophet saws said that if a non-Muslim say salam to a Muslim, then he should reply just with "Wa alaikum". I hope I explained well

That's all from me now
Masha'Allah, wallahi u made my day today alhamdulillah

 

[OneSquared]

Peace! I'm Lauren too (born Muslim though) :ma:
Inshallah you will be given the guidance and become Muslim soon

 

[Munawar]

:salam2:
Assalam-o-alikum Dear Sister Lauren,

Sister you can ofcourse use the Islamic greetings. These greetings are the gift of Islam for the whole world.

Sister I feel that you are already a Muslim, :ma: you just haven't announced it yet. Hoprfully you will announce it soon. InshaAllah.

Welcome sister Lauren to Islam and to TTI.

Wassalam.

 

[lozlg]

Thanks for your replys. Munawar- thats exactly how i feel, like im muslim already. InshaAllah I am planning to take my shahadah in the next couple to weeks. I met another sister yesterday and we were discussing non muslims funerals. She said that i should not attend a non-muslims funeral. Can someone please explain why this is? I am thinking of my parents, how would my family feel if i did not attend my parents funeral and how would i explain my decision?

I have another question. I currently work in a casino, this is harram right?, even though i only work as a receptionist. I want to get another job. Do you think i should change my job before i take my shahadah? Thanks for all your help.

 

[BinteShafi]

Asslam u alaikum wr wb,

It is permissible for a Muslim to attend a kaafir’s funeral if the kaafir is a relative, such as a mother, father, brother or other relative, but it is not permissible to join in the prayers or any other rites of their religion.

I would say that you should keep try finding another job but do not delay your shahadah due to this. If you can not find job before your shahadah, it should be OK. Things do not change immidiately dear sister...you need to take your time for everything else EXCEPT shahadah.

walaikum salam.

 

[Safiyah_]

Welcome,

It's nice to hear that you are ready to take ur shahada.
About the social problem.. if i were you i would try to ignore it. Most people in the mosque are very friendly and u are in the section for women. I also have a problem that i'm very shy. Espacially with men around ! But u don't have to worry..
They won't send u away

x

 

[a_stranger]

Hi my name is Lauren and i am non muslim. I feel ready to take my shahada but i have one thing thats holding me back. I suffer with social anxiety and have a low self esteem. I have got some counselling sessions starting next week which will hopefully help me, insha'Allah. I met a muslim sister during the week for a chat and she said that i was welcome to go mosque with her yesterday but i could'nt face it. Just the thought of lots of people there, feeling like everyone is looking at me and not knowing how to pray etc, i would be a nervous wreck. I was going to take my shahada after all my counselling is over so i can totally concentrate on learning about Islam without the worry and anxiety but part of me thinks i shouldn't wait as my life could end tomorrow for all i know. Maybe i should face my fear. What shall i do?

I also have a couple of questions:
Can i use the islamic greeting Assalam Alaikom to greet muslims even though i am a non muslim?

Is it ok for me to say islamic sayings such as Alhamdullah, insha'Allah etc when im talking to muslim people?

Thank you

Dear sister You are most welcome

You are a true hope for humanity , by accepting Islam you are wiping a spot of darkness from our world may Allah swt bless you and make you happy forever ....

 

[lily_mawar]

Salam lozlg ...

Welcome to TTI world ... you may find this site beneficial and if you have question or any doubt about Islam, don't be hesitate to ask ...


Welcome to the ummah Sis Lauren ... May Allah bless you and guide you to the right path. Sis Lauren, once you take your syahadah, you're just like a new born baby ... don't worry, all your previous sins will erase off .... I think attending funeral especially your own parents is not haram in Islam, Islam teach us about respect our parents eventhough we convert to Islam ... but you must remember do not follow their religious ritual ...

Sis Lauren, don't worry so much ... you can learn and practise Islam step by step ... first thing after syahadah, learn how to solah ... and practise it ... May Allah give you patient to learn and practise Islam ...

 

[muna]

Welcome to TTI dear SiS, n i'm glad to know that you want to take shahadah, MashaAllah... dont wait 2 long SiS..if yu feel it's right for u then go for it"May you find Peace inshaAllah take care SiS

 

[yasak80]

Salamun aleykum sister
MashaALLAH your heart is muslim, there is just only think to say 'LA ILAHE ILLALLAH MUHAMMEDUN RESULLULLAH ' say it in your house with a muslim friend.
I see your anxiety but when you become a muslim and pray to Allah , it will pass inshaALLAH.Because Allah has told us that the life of this world is "a game and a diversion." you will not going to waste your time with thinking of this world, you will focus on hereafter and please Allah and the most important thing is the day of judgement..
So people's looking will be unworthy that Allah is watching you sister
inshaAllah you will find a job suitable for muslims , Allah guieded you , Allah wont let you down again inshaALLAH.

 

[massi]

 

[Munawar]

Thanks for your replys. Munawar- thats exactly how i feel, like im muslim already. InshaAllah I am planning to take my shahadah in the next couple to weeks. I met another sister yesterday and we were discussing non muslims funerals. She said that i should not attend a non-muslims funeral. Can someone please explain why this is? I am thinking of my parents, how would my family feel if i did not attend my parents funeral and how would i explain my decision?

I have another question. I currently work in a casino, this is harram right?, even though i only work as a receptionist. I want to get another job. Do you think i should change my job before i take my shahadah? Thanks for all your help.

:salam2:
Assalam-o-alikum Dear Sister Lauren,

You can of course attend the funeral of your friends and relatives who are not Muslim. There is no problem in doing that, except that you cannot participate in the prayers. As you know when non-Muslim would pray they would pray to their Gods which we believe are false Gods. So a Muslim should not participate in their prayers, other than that going to the funeral procession or viewing or talking about them in a gathering or attending burial ceremony is absolutely allowed. As a matter of fact I think it is probably recommended if it is of your parents or siblings etc, except that one should move away when prayers are being held.

About your second question, I think you should take Shahadah as soon as possible because anyone can die any time and one shouldn't die as a nonbeliever. You can take shahadah alone with Allah as you witness and then do it again in public, and that would be fine.
Leaving your job ... well... you can leave it whenever it is possible for you, but take shahadah as soon as you can. Allah (SWT) knows what is in your heart and what are your circumstances, and he is far more merciful and forgiving than we can imagine.

Wassalam.

 

[mohammed nasser]

Thanks for your replys. Munawar- thats exactly how i feel, like im muslim already. InshaAllah I am planning to take my shahadah in the next couple to weeks. I met another sister yesterday and we were discussing non muslims funerals. She said that i should not attend a non-muslims funeral. Can someone please explain why this is? I am thinking of my parents, how would my family feel if i did not attend my parents funeral and how would i explain my decision?

I have another question. I currently work in a casino, this is harram right?, even though i only work as a receptionist. I want to get another job. Do you think i should change my job before i take my shahadah? Thanks for all your help.

ok there is no problem in attending funerals of non-muslims and many scholars said there is no problem in attending non-muslim funerals or weddings so do not mind
According to your job , taking shahda is something with no relation with your job so take shahda now and try to change your job if it is not compatible with Islam

 

[zainali]

assalamualikum
sister if u feel scary of being in front of all and take shahada , then u can take ur sister friend and go to the mosque and take shahada infront of imam and one more thing if u like islamic greetings , think what else might be there in the whole religion , im sad to tell u but , dont look at muslims to find what islam is , lastly just dont worry all of us are with u , ur not alone .

 

[Hilal Said]

Please Please don't hesitate to embrace Islam. As you said people don't know when they will die!!!

So make Shahadah now. This moment..

Don't miss the opportunity given by Allah to you.


You are not the first one and inshallah not the last one to embrace Islam.


Please obey Allah and make us happy by saying Shahadah and embracing Islam.

May Allah bless you