A'salaamu 'aleikom my Friends.
I have not been around for a while, my studies tend ti interfere with leisure.
With reference to the subject in question. I have recently conducted a small survey among s few Revert Muslims in my area. I have found that Lonliness is a common factor among those who have reverted, and later, rejected Islam. Of the thirty four who have rejected, nineteen have also rejected religion outright.
Why is this so? There are many reasons, not just one cause. The most common reason given was, they felt that they themselves had been rejected due to the lack of reciprocal fellowship, language difficulties, and Cultural differences that created an air of exclusivity amongst many "Born" Muslims.
Another common complaint related to the confusion caused by some Muslims criticizing, rather than helping, and the lack of encouragement from their local Muslim community. I myself have come across some people who have a habit of boasting about their own knowledge and abilities, placing ridicule on those whose abiliy is lesser.
Finally, there was the lack of acceptance of them as being Muslim, or even as seekers. Yes, that includes some Imam.
There are a few other reasons, but these were the main ones given.
For myself, my Daughter actually considered finding out, first hand, what islam is all about. She even considered reverting, as a matter of fereewill. This is a teen who has never had any religious background whatsoever. Because she was treated as an outcast by Muslimah her own age, she has rejected islam before she had the chance to revert.
For myself, I am still a muslim, I just tend to keep to myself a lot. It is easier than being criticized and being ignored by those who may feel that being a "Born" Muslim gives them superiority because I am not from their particular "Culture".
Besides, since taking Shehada a year ago, I attend to my life alone without a partner, I observe what is required of me, and now read the Qur'an in Arabic and English. I just refuse to argue about Allah (subhanna wa Ta'ala) His Prophet (salalahu alehi wa salaam), or hadeeth. I leave that to the scholars.
W'salaam
Ibrahim Abdullah